A Few Random Splatters

I’m very much enjoying writing the blog, but I also still hang out at Talk About Marriage. Here’s a few random splatters of what I’ve said over there recently. No particular plan, just letting fly… ;-)
How can I get my wife less innocent?
You have to just get over the idea that she is going to initiate sex with you. Most women, even very high sex drive women, rarely come out and directly ask for sex or make physical moves to get it started. Usually they give only small signals of interest… playing their hair, eye contact, “so what would you like to do”, smiling at you then breaking eye contact and looking down, touching herself on the neck etc. You’re just meant to realize she is interested. If she ever makes a physical move on you, you absolutely must follow through on that. Women take sexual rejection very personally.
Am I Having An Affair?
…if your husband is remotely paying attention to you – he knows something is going on. He likely has no clue how to stop you from going after this other guy. The whole thing of having a personal trainer in the first place is probably making your husband very nervous. Women fall for personal trainers like men fall for strippers.
Help: My husband changed all his passwords and took his sum of money from our joint account.
“I moved out to another country due to a job posting. We have been living physically separate for 23 months now. He visits 3-4 times a year. We visited him once. Our child is with me.”
If you really expect a relationship with a healthy man to continue when he gets less Conjugal Visits than a medium secruity prison inmate, you are seriously deluded. Lets face it. You left him.
Foresight…
If my wife ever became pregnant to someone else, I believe I would end it instantly as well. So I certainly don’t disagree with that. It’s disappointing that she was so stupid. It’s one thing to have an affair… I understand the temptations there, but she getting pregnant was just frakking stupid. I’m not sure I’d be divorcing for the affair itself, but I just personally couldn’t stay married to such a dumbass.
How important is head to a man?
It’s not BJ = Respect
it’s…
Wife Turned On Sexually By Husband = The Little Things Stay Little
Wife Not Turned On Sexually By Husband = WHY CAN’T YOU LOAD THE FRAKKING DISHWASHER LIKE I TOLD YOU TO THE PLATES GO HERE AND RINSE THEM OFF BEFORE YOU PUT THEM IN THE CUPS GO HERE YOU IDIOT I TELL YOU AND I TELL YOU I AM SO SICK OF CLEANING UP AFTER YOUR SHIT ALL DAY LONG AND YOU NEVER DO ANYTHING RIGHT TO HELP ME GET AWAY FROM THE WASHING MACHINE AND LET ME DO IT BECAUSE YOU ARE INCAPABLE OF ANYTHING AND I CANNOT GET ANYTHING I WANT DONE AROUND HERE AND DINNER IS RUINED BECAUSE OF YOU AND I HOPE YOU ARE HAPPY!
Then the husband comes on here and asks why his wife doesn’t respect him and he isn’t getting enough sex.

Comments

  1. I want a warm and loving wife, but she is cold and emotionally distant. On the surface we get along fine. She shit tests, but she isn't mean or cruel and we still have sex. I can come up behind her, hold her, kiss her neck and she just ignores it. I'm working on amplifying alpha traits to increase attraction, but my question is: How do I handle affection? Do I treat her with indifference like she does to me in which case there will be no touching at all, or do I give her affection and hope that my warmness will eventually melt her cold, cold heart?

  2. I guess the question is when did she become cold?

    I wonder if physical touch is the way you experience "love and warmth", but she does not. Perhaps http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/ something in here is what floats her boat.

  3. Thanks for the advice. Physical affection and praise/appreciation have worked well in the past. She became cold after we had 2 ugly fights last summer where not only was attraction destroyed but comfort as well. That's when she used the d word and I began to seek to understand women. Then I found Game and I've made some changes.

    Able to pass her shit tests? Check.
    Able to stay present and calm during her anger tempests? Check.
    Never accepting the blame, never apologizing? Check.
    Calling her out on any disrespecting behavior? Check.
    Taking care of business before she has a chance to nag? Check.
    Positive attitude, occasionally witty, finding humor in life? Check.
    Still fit and good looking? Check.
    Bringing home a fat paycheck to provide for my family? Check.
    Being an involved and loving father? Check.
    Still married to a cold bitch? Check.

    I think what I need to do is let go of this desire. My attachment to this desire is making me suffer.

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