Hi Athol,I stumbled across your blog today and liked your article on domination and submission within marriage. I’m only 21 and have never been married. But I do like the idea of dominating a woman, and I’ve heard there are lots of women that like to be dominated. So I guess my question for you is how to find these women? Is there a good way to screen for them? Do submissive women hang out at certain venues?Thank you!
I think you might be missing the point just a little. As I said earlier the very large majority of women tend to desire an element of submission to a male partner. So submissive women don’t really hang out anywhere in particular, they are basically everywhere. If you want a rough guide, probably 4 out of every 5 women is going to enjoy submitting to the right guy. So you can really find them everywhere.
And again – broken record time – when I say most men are dominant and most women are submissive, I say this in the same way I say men tend to be taller than women. Yes you can find submissive or short men and yes you can find dominant or tall women. But in general the observation holds true.
Also I’m saying in the context of a sexual relationship this element comes to light. It’s not an all men dominate all women statement. It’s one man with one woman.
The way you find your particular sweetheart is not by seeking a submissive woman. It’s by being an assertive alpha, and creating attraction that draws a woman to you. Actually walking around asking women if they are submissive is going to creep 99% of women out on the spot. You have to carefully frame it as that you “like to make things happen” or something like that. “I’m not interested in being a bully, but I like to take the lead”.
In the end, submission is not something you can take from a woman. It’s something they give you. So become the sort of man that entices them to give it.
Another possible key is the way a girls parents interact and the way she in particular views that relationship.
And don’t forget that a submissive wife isn’t a doormat or bimbo. Well they can be I guess, just personally I’d tire of them very quickly. You should be hunting for a First Officer. Upon occassion you are really going to want her to be able to step up for you and your family.
For those those alert to the images of Mulan in this post… yes I put them there on purpose. Maybe worth another viewing from a dominance and submission viewpoint.
“Girl like that doesn’t show up every dynasty”