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A reader question…
Your post today was very interesting. I do not watch a lot of porn, but I do read quite a bit. Mostly I do this at Literotica.com.
A significant minority of the stories there are in the ‘cuckold’ vein. Husbands wanting to watch their wife have sex with another man, cheating wives, husbands forced to watch their wives having sex with another man. I find these stories excite me also and that bothers me because I wouldn’t want that to happen in real life. I kind of think of it like a woman who has a ‘rape’ fantasy; they wouldn’t want that to happen in real life either.
Still, I wonder if it is unhealthy, and if so, if there is something I can do about it or if I am just doomed to be a Beta male
This is a large topic in and of itself. Basically the turn on is quite real and stems from the sperm competition dynamic. So you are biologically programmed on some level to sexually respond to this fantasy. So it’s “normal”.
The problem comes from the endless repeating of the cuckold scenario and what starts as a biological drive to defend against someone impregnating your wife starts turning into a psychological imprinting as you build up a taste for it. Human sexuality is quite trainable. If for example you read erotica and porn where someone blew up a balloon and popped it as part of the story, the first time would probably do nothing to you, but after hundreds of viewings you would probably start finding balloons and popping balloons an increasing turn on. Eventually you couldn’t become turned on without the balloons available.
The solution is simply to stop repeating the stimulation and find a different sexual outlet.
In terms of having a wife and actual relationship where you start moving into a cuckold lifestyle, it usually ends one of two ways. Either she stops doing it and life continues on… and quite likely worse for the wear. Or she just leaves her husband for someone with a higher sex rank. It’s fairly random too, she could bang five different guys and it’s all just exciting fun for her and she bounces home to hubby all happy… then number six just floats her boat and it’s the writing on the wall for hubby. If you’re a 6 with a 7 wife encouraging her to have sex with a 9 is just a recipe for instant disaster.
I’m sure you get that cuckolding is possibly the worst of all Beta behaviors. Asking your wife to sleep with another man is a Display of Low Value. My suggestion is to fight it off as best you can and retrain yourself to enjoy other sexuality expressions. I do get that it is much easier to say than do.
I did love reading Penthouse Letters for many years so understand the basic concept and appeal. Since stopping I’ve more easily upped my Alpha traits and Jennifer responds to me much better.
It’s not as hopeless as you think it might be. At least not as hopeless as trying to find an image that fits the post topic but doesn’t have a XXX rating. Hence the bunnies in the cups.