I’ve read a few blogs recently that have stated little passing snippets that “most women are bad in bed”. I hadn’t thought much of it until I realized that I was seeing it here, there and everywhere.
The answer is yes it’s true, most women are bad in bed. As are most men.
One of the great things about being married is you have enough time to make a few mistakes and still correct things. Sometimes you just have a conversation about what is working or not working in the relationship and most particularly in the bedroom.
Jennifer and I have always had a good relationship, but it’s really been a series of long plateaus followed by leaps upwards in understanding. Especially in the bedroom it can take years to learn each others buttons and hot spots.
Sometimes you even change physiologically over the years as well. I remember back in my twenties my balls were too sensitive to touch during sex and I’d just tense up from it. Everything about touching them just resulted in a sensation of weird discomfort. At some point around age 30 they started feeling deliciously good from being played with. We had to talk about that seeing I had made it expressly clear in a couple of short sharp directives to Jennifer that they weren’t to be trifled with.
“I thought you hated that”.
“I thought I did too, it’s just different now somehow”.
“Well ok, I can do that”.
See. How complicated of a technique is that. Talking. Try it.
Now watch the video. Go on, it’s part of the flow of the post. Oh and while it isn’t freaky weird it’s probably NSFW either so be advised.
Many women like being tossed around the bedroom a bit. But you do have to have a conversation about it before you really roll the dice on this one. In this day and age it actually takes a lot more trust from the man than it does from the woman to engage in what amounts to basically vigorous vanilla sex.
So yeah if she happens to like the faux rape fantasy thing there are going to be a few times where it isn’t all that rapey and far more faux. But give it some time and six months later you both may have the move down and not be nearly as awkward. A reasonable minority of women like this sort of thing, a majority of women like “rough” sex. Pretty much all of them like it at least vigorous once in a while.
So you talk and you try new things – only about 30% of the things we have tried have really worked for us, but we have tried an awful lot of things. Sex is a team sport unless it’s masturbation. This is how you both get good with each other. I’m by no means a bad lay myself. But I do Jennifer much better than I would somebody I was having a first time with.
So yeah, most women are bad in bed… at first. But as long as they are into you and willing to learn, the sky is the limit. You just have to set that intention into your marriage.