We can’t really afford it, and it’s semi-bad timing, but we’re having a two week trip to New Zealand in about a week. Usually Jennifer has Obsessive Trip Planning Disorder (OTPD) that lasts for upwards of six months before a family vacation, this time everything has largely been accomplished in under six days. We did some of it together, but she just remembers so many little things I forget.
About a week ago we got the news that Dad’s up and down battle with cancer was no longer going to be something that could be won. How long is left is unknown, but we’re going to be heading out to see him while there’s still time.
Though I am not really ready for this at all. Of our four parents, Dad was the healthiest and the most energetic. He was still racing go-karts competitively until the cancer treatments started making him sit racing out in 2008. He’s 64. So WTF.

Life is difficult at times, and it’s easy to postpone your dreams, especially if the mundane things are starting to add up a tally against you. Your dreams and special desires are part of what animates you as a person though and makes you vital, alive and for a lack of a better word… sexy.
Almost always for anything that really matters, there’s never a perfect time. Sometimes when you wait for that perfect moment of readiness, it never comes and time and life passes you by. No one else will care that you missed out on doing something that you really wanted to do. You just have to go do it.


  1. I'm sorry Athol :((

  2. Meg at Demanding Joy says:

    My father also had a long battle with cancer. I'm so sorry that your family is going through this.

  3. So sorry to hear. Hang in there.

  4. Ms Lacrymosa says:

    Such sad news. Thinking of you all.

  5. Athol Kay says:


  6. Sorry to hear it, my man. There is no perfect time, indeed. We'll be thinking of you.

  7. The Social Pathologist says:

    Dude, Sorry to hear about your dad.

    The video clip was poignant.

  8. So sorry to hear about your dad :( Best wishes to you and your family!

  9. Sorry to hear about your father. I can't imagine loosing my dad.

  10. I am sorry to hear the news. I will keep you and yours, and more your father, in my prayers. Make some good memories as you can while there. Travel well.

  11. Athol Kay says:

    Thanks again for the kind words.

  12. Alkibiades says:

    Sorry to hear that. Have a safe trip.

  13. rwestefeld says:

    I'm so sorry to hear that. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers!

  14. I'm so sorry athol, have a good trip. Hugs!

  15. SDaedalus says:

    I'm very, very sorry to hear about your dad. Both my parents had cancer – it is a terrible illness. It is good that you are getting back to see him though. I'm sure he's extremely proud of you all, and family & grandchildren in particular can be a great consolation at such times. I wish you and your family all the best and I hope things are as easy for your Dad as possible.

  16. Athol Kay says:

    Thanks again everyone.

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