Dr Helen Fisher: Casual Sex Doesn’t Exist

I had touched on the work of Dr Helen Fisher in an earlier post I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You. I truly believe she has the best handle on love as a topic and much of what I’ve worked on does tie in fairly directly with her viewpoint. Though with a few different terms and a somewhat more applied approach.
I’ll follow up on what a lot of this means for myself and Jennifer personally soon, but I think the basic theory is valuable to get down first. The 10 second summary being…
In love = Dopamine based excitement / OCD like mental obsession on person of desire. (This is why SSRIs can kill off romance and interest in sex btw) The addition of Game understanding is that Alpha Traits compliment this process.
Pair Bond = Oxytocin / Vasopressin based emotional bonding and closeness. The addition of Game understanding is the Beta Traits compliment this process.
Sexual Drive = Testosterone based all purpose generic horniness towards the opposite sex. Physical fitness compliments this process.
Anyway, I stumbled across a brillant video of her explaining things… enjoy.  (The video player is a little twitchy it seems and doesn’t show up in Google Reader.)


  1. Antigone Amplified says:

    Nice one- a useful video on the appliance of science to the art of 'Lurve'.

    It seems almost a pity to reduce it all to its component parts and hormones, doesn't it- kind of lets the daylight in on the magic, lol.

  2. Dr Fishers answer to that is that you can know all there is to know about the chemistry behind the making of chocolate cake, but it doesn't mean you don't enjoy it any less.

  3. why the fuck would you get married? That was a dumbfuck choice.

  4. That casual sex doesn't exist is why 1) Polygamy won't work, and 2) Slutting around will harm your ability to pairbond.

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