I had touched on the work of Dr Helen Fisher in an earlier post I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You. I truly believe she has the best handle on love as a topic and much of what I’ve worked on does tie in fairly directly with her viewpoint. Though with a few different terms and a somewhat more applied approach.
I’ll follow up on what a lot of this means for myself and Jennifer personally soon, but I think the basic theory is valuable to get down first. The 10 second summary being…
In love = Dopamine based excitement / OCD like mental obsession on person of desire. (This is why SSRIs can kill off romance and interest in sex btw) The addition of Game understanding is that Alpha Traits compliment this process.
Pair Bond = Oxytocin / Vasopressin based emotional bonding and closeness. The addition of Game understanding is the Beta Traits compliment this process.
Sexual Drive = Testosterone based all purpose generic horniness towards the opposite sex. Physical fitness compliments this process.
Anyway, I stumbled across a brillant video of her explaining things… enjoy. (The video player is a little twitchy it seems and doesn’t show up in Google Reader.)