Loving your blog. I just read your post “Are You Poisoning Your Wife Against You With Bad Semen?” and I have a question. My wife was on the pill (several kinds) for years and she had bad mood swings and anxiety problems which seemed to completely go away when she went off the pill. So now we’ve only been using condoms and after reading your post it’s sounds like I’m in a lose-lose situation. Any good solution? Once in awhile I do the timing method but it’s only once a month when we are about as far from ovulation as you can get.
Birth Control is always problematic in that you are interfering with what a few million years of evolutionary fine tuning has planned as the way sex works. The best possible sex is two highly fertile people going at it without something in the way. Of course endless children appearing is regarded as highly problematic, so the majority of us turn to birth control in some fashion.
For a married couple you’re looking for the version of birth control that causes the lowest number of negative effects. So if your wife tried multiple birth control pills and had mood swings and anxiety issues, that’s a bad problem. If using condoms is working out better, then the condoms are a better form of birth control.
Before we had kids Jennifer and I used a combination of the rhythm method and condoms. Since the kids we’ve had her on birth control pills and she’s had very minimal side effects, so we’ve stuck with that. If Jennifer had issues with the pill we would have likely started looking for a different option. Including possibly going back to condoms. (Having had my first proper batch of sex using condoms with Jennifer, I actually find them mildly erotic still.)
Generally I advise trying the easier options first before trying a surgical one (for either sex).
Condoms do stop semen entering the vagina and semen has proven anti-depressant effects on women. So if you are using condoms there are some concerns that there may be some loss of mood for your wife. However compared to the major side effects of the pill she experienced, the loss of the gains in mood from barebacking seem of far less importance. There’s really no one size fits all birth control solution.
Being in good physical shape and being able to pump out a decent supply of healthy semen is always a positive thing though. Even for things like hand jobs and blow jobs a strong healthy squirt when you come is always going to be more pleasing to your wife than a odd smelling dribble. So you should still work on physical health even if you’re 100% condom using.