Hi Athol, have been reading your blog for a few months and really enjoy it. I greatly appreciate the balanced view portrayed here.
Ayway, question: I find that one of the best ways to get insanely good sex from my wife is to be a good father to our daughter. If I take her fishing, or hiking, or just spend an hour hanging out at the kitchen table telling bad knock-knock jokes, I am more often than not rewarded that very evening with seduction and nastiness that I didn’t even have to work for. In your experience, is this normal? And do you want to take a stab at explaining it? I love spending time w/ my daughter so I can’t say I’ve ever intentionally used this method to procure booty, but there have been times down by the pond where my daughter asks me, “Daddy, why are you smiling like that?”.
I suspect that simply caring for and “loving” the children is Beta and supportive, while that leading and being dominant over the children is an Alpha display. (Leading and dominating may be known by other names… like tickle fight monster.) So you can hit both the Alpha and Beta traits very easily with one thing.
I also think that having pulled the children’s attention on to you and held it, you’re actually creating a social preselection styled effect. Your framing yourself as the Alpha Male of the Group. So the resident female can hardly help herself being interested in you.
For whatever reason it works though, it clearly works.