Question in the comments on yesterdays post….
Athol. I just took a job that has a six-week training period out of the state at corporate HQ. This training will run smack dab over both Valentine’s Day and my anniversary with my gf. How can I start planning now to keep our emotional life well-stocked given that we may not get to celebrate either or both of those days together?
I wouldn’t go too crazy trying to over do it before you go. I think you just need to advance with the positive expectation that your relationship is bigger than this inconvenience. Six weeks is annoyingly long, but it’s not like you’re being deployed in Iraq either, so I think you can frame it as a mild adversity of your relationship that might grow it a little too.
The obvious thing to do is stay in contact with each other each day. There’s random texting, email, phone and Skype. If you have a laptop you are taking with you, then you can grab a cheap USB camera for each of you and Skype each other. I use it to talk to my family back in New Zealand and it is vastly different seeing a talking head on the other end than merely hearing their voice. Also you can play strip poker with her via Skype, or do something more obviously sexual on camera too.
Random texting you should be doing anyway to each other, so that shouldn’t change.
How far way is it? Where are you staying? What do flights cost? Why not send for her halfway through? There’s a friendship between the exotic and the erotic, so a plane flight and a hotel room just to have sex is going to make her very excited. Plus she should fixate on it for the entire lead up to it. Maybe she can do a three day weekend. Bonus points if you can time it for her ovulation. Refer to sending for her as “ordering room service”.
Snail mail her things. No one does a love letter anymore so it can be playfully quaint but also deep as well if she’s anything of a writer. Jennifer and I survived for three years on love letters and a few weeks of visits. Send her one and she will look at the mailbox like it’s maybe full of crack each day, so send her at semi-random. Ask her some open ended questions in there and have her mail you back. The trick is not to wait for replies, let things cross in the mail. It’s okay to send the first two things before you get the first reply.
Hide something fun / special / Valentines Day / anniversary day for her in the house somewhere.
Ok readers…. add some more ideas in the comments.