Status Report…

I’m off work for a few days and really have to step away from the Internet for a little bit. Blogging is great fun, but it sure can suck up your day if you let it. I’m still around, just posting will likely be light until New Years.
I started Married Man Sex Life back on 1/1/2010, so I’m almost to the one year mark. It’s been a very pleasing first year with making some new friends and I’m at around 221,000 visitors for the year, plus the 630 or so following by the feed as well. I turned 40 this year and the blog is just finishing out the first of my assumed two years to “get it up to zero” where I break even in terms of time spent a year from now. This is all part of a ten year plan towards what I want to be doing at age 50.
As a rough guess I probably significantly helped 30-40 marriages this year. By which I mean potential divorce was averted and kids get to grow up in an intact family. No doubt not everyone that reads has their marriage turned around and some readers are still single, but probably another 30-40 people benefited from either not making a significant relationship mistake or limited the damage from a relationship fallout. I don’t really have stats to back this hunch up, but I’ve had email contact with over a hundred readers, sometimes with dozens of exchanges this year. So hunch or not, I’m very proud of what I’ve done this year.
In writing this blog I’ve “put myself out there” and for better or worse Google won’t forget. I’ve also put Jennifer out there by default as well, which is why before I started I asked her permission to start writing the blog. I’m very glad that she agreed and her support through the year has been wonderful. The process of writing things out has bought us closer together as a couple and for me this has been the most enjoyable year of our marriage.
It was also a very bad year. My real job has been difficult essentially all year and I’m starting to believe my job description is what the movie WALL-E was based on. My Dad died. I stopped writing my book to go visit him, but then I lost momentum and he died before I could get it all together again. I think I did the right thing going to see him, but I wish I had worked harder and had him hold it before he died.
And the damn book…  I’m an INTP so it’s amazing I can even finish a blog post some days. I’m still working on it I promise. All this helping people is nice, it really is, but I need a paycheck from this at the end of the day as well. Hence obvious need for a book.
So there we go. I’m a real person, having a real marriage and a real life.  This is a real blog, with a real strategy for making your sex life better, that really works. There are no tricks, no scams, no lies about what you need to pay me to learn this stuff. And I really do get laid around 340 times a year by Jennifer. I have a controversial “in you, or on your” policy when it comes to ejaculations and she’s sweet to me to comply to my demands.
I love her.


  1. Miles Anderson says:

    You rock brother. Have a Merry Christmas!

  2. Just stumbled upon this and your last two paragraphs there were priceless. Bookmarked; will visit again.

  3. You have got a great thing here. I love reading and sharing with the people I know. I hope the New Year brings much more success on your 10 year plan! I look forward to more.

  4. Merry Christmas

  5. Merry Christmas, AK.
    You've helped many husbands and wives, including me and her.
    I look forward to your book.

  6. Merry Christmas Athol. You do a great job here, and I appreciate you taking the time. Good luck on your book!


  7. David Collard says:


    "I have a controversial "in you, or on your" policy when it comes to ejaculations and she's sweet to me to comply to my demands."

    Good policy. But I am an uptight Catholic, so my policy with my wife and my ejaculations is "in you or in you".

    Great blog. And you have real courage doing it in your own name.

    Happy New Year! (If it is any consolation, 2010 was a bastard of a year for me too.)

  8. I know you helped save my marriage through your efforts here and on TAM. I can't thank you enough. I was almost all Beta all the time, now I know enough to mix it up. Chicken, Monkey, Duck.

  9. Thanks Okie. You are welcome.

  10. ElectricAngel says:

    You've done good work. I'd nominate as your post of the year, not that you're asking. (By the way, fembots at Google have stopped that search from returning the top search term that you saved in your snapshot of it, but I can tell the world that Athol did not lie!) And thanks, I have given that article to a number of young men who needed to read it. The chief takeaway: women love to be dominated, and hate to be controlled. If you are crazy enough to get married, you'd better master the former tactic.

  11. Athol Kay says:

    Hi ElectricAngel – yup I could never get the search to show up like that again shortly after I posted it. I do suspect some Google manual editing, but don't want to make too much of it. The ones for the "I want my wife…" searches are even more appalling lol.

    That was a critical post I agree. Thank you.

  12. You're an INTP…what is Jennifer?

    Hope you enjoy 2011, Athol :)

  13. Athol Kay says:

    Jennifer is an INFP

  14. I thought she might be–I am an INFP too. My boyfriend's an ESTJ. Our relationship is…an adventure to say the least ;)

    Anyways, good luck with your book.

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