Well I’d only be so dramatic as to kick her out of bed if she did that nonsense thing of getting you halfway there and just stopped on you for no reason. Or having you work on her until she comes and then there’s nothing for you. I think it’s a fairly reasonable assumption that you’d be royally pissed off by that and failing to show that sort of natural reaction would be quite odd.

However she didn’t actually ask you to not touch her, in fact what she did do was ask was for you to touch her… with her in a somewhat submissive position. So I wonder if she just wanted more of a warm up.

I think in this case you might have been just better to play it up cocky and funny and said, “by spooning you mean rubbing your ass on my cock right? I would love to spoon with you. It’s so hot when you initiate.”  If she smiles and complies you probably got her halfway to a yes.

Once spooning you have a lot of skin pressed against each other and there’s plenty of opportunity to kiss the back of her neck, rub her ass, stroke her boobs gently and so on. Pulling her hair up and out of the way to get a good expanse of neck opened up is nice too. If she’s letting you do that it’s a good sign. Any little “contented sigh” is a good sign. Snuggling deeper into you is a good sign.

Keep stroking and playing with her until she relents or you get a firm “no”. It’s also possible to keep talking to her the whole time about the intense emotional connection the two of you share. It’s like a spiritual bond free of the base primitive needs to rut like a wild animal, it’s a precious special thing when the love you have for her surpasses the need to simply mount her like a stallion and fill her with seed blah blah blah, while the whole time you slowly grind your hard cock against her ass. Just keep talking until she starts laughing and rolls onto her back which is essentially the signal to go for her pussy. Kiss down her body and start with oral.

Of course if she does say no, it’s a no. It’s okay to hug for a bit, but break it early with a “sorry baby I’m just horny and cuddling is a bit of a tease tonight”.

The you ten second kiss her.

Then you say “I love you”.  Like you mean it. Not as an act. Never say those words as an act. Always with true and full emotion to your wife.

“But if you change your mind…. I’m the naked guy to your right”.  Keep it light and playful. Smile.

Then you roll over and head off to sleep.

But if she touches you after that… I would take that as her asking for sex. No words, just roll over and start up your best Cockzilla routine.

So anyway, spooning is a great way to get yourself in a perfect position to turn into a filthy octopus with hands everywhere. I think Jennifer gave up on spooning as “just cuddling” years ago. If I asked her “maybe we could just spoon” she’d just start laughing at me. I think after getting her ass coated in an ounce of pre-cum she just thinks actual sex is less mess. I mean after five minutes of spooning her ass looks like a glazed donut. I could eat that.

If Game can be summarized into three words, it’s “instigate, isolate, escalate”. The instigation being that sense of playful engaging interaction with her. Whether that’s banter, teasing, deep and meaningful talking, humor or whatever, you’re trying to start something with her beyond asking her what’s for dinner.

Escalate being the “always be closing” approach of physical touch, sexual touch and lets go to the bedroom. I’m not saying very time you touch you are forcing the issue towards naked sexy time, just that you are setting the intent that there will be a sexy naked time and it’s going to be good. If she wants sex, you can…