Bad Wife Choice: Avoiding a Huge Mistake

Via Facebook message…
“It’s absolutely jaw dropping how much the content from MMSL and Taken in Hand models what the Scriptures say marriage is supposed to be like sans the disciplinary spanking aspect of TIH. However, those three are nothing like what is considered a “Christian Marriage” in today’s standard. I understand that you’re no longer a believer . . .I currently am and this information has been very important in search for a good relationship. Last time I wrote you I was engaged, I’ve since called it off for a myriad of reasons including the fact that I didn’t have peace from God about the situation. In addition to that your blog/site has helped me realize the type of relationship that I REALLY WANT versus just accepting whatever is handed to me. I also realize now how important it is to become the type of man that is necessary to be in what I consider to be a good marriage. In short, thanks again. You helped to save me from making a HUGE mistake!”
I replied:
You are most welcome. I’m not religious anymore, but I do keep having Christians telling me I’m biblical. I just take it as a compliment, but it’s not really something I’m trying to do.
I’m sure the decision you made wasn’t without difficulty and some pain though. I hope you find the one and have as much happiness as Jennifer and I do. And thank you. It really does make a difference to me.
Athol
My hunch though… let’s say he’s a 7 and he’s engaged to a 7. After reading MMSL and learning a few more things, he sees a clear path to get to him to be an easy 8 or maybe even a full 9 if he really puts his mind to it. But she’s still going to be a 7 or she’s been resisting his positive changes – a very bad sign of things to come. So the Rationalization Hamster in the Sky makes him feel uncomfortable and he breaks it off. Now he seeks a 9; he deserves one.
Hey I may be wrong, it’s just a hunch, but I’m getting good at this stuff. I’ve also been right there myself, looking at a woman I deeply love, crush hard on and just having that sense of disconnection that something just isn’t right. It pained me to not get involved, but if I had moved on her I know it would have played out badly and I would have never even met Jennifer.
So whether or not you believe in: God, fate, the Rationalization Hamster in the Sky, science, The Force, or whatever you care to believe in, understand that your choice in wife will utterly define your life in ways you cannot comprehend as yet. I’m not against thinking with the little head either. In fact I think that’s pretty important, I’m just in favor of having the little head and the big head agree that it’s a good idea to join to her.
Though do try and figure out whether or not the little head is just bullshiting the big head into making a quick decision. If you have a bad feeling about it just lurking inside you… step away from her for a couple days, away from her pheromones, away from the genetic information you get from her lingering kiss, away from the draw of her cleavage and the curve of her ass. Then think about it just a little more. If she’s the one, she’ll still be the one three days from now.
Also do not offer marriage within three days of having your face anywhere near her vagina. The smell of pussy is designed to control your mind and make you her minion. It’s beyond me why wives ever nag their husbands to do anything, when they could just sit on his face and ask nicely.

Comments

  1. Augustine DeCarthage says:

    My Vocations Director back when I was discerning whether I had a priestly vocation used to say, "The fruit of accurate discernment is peace."

    And later, after a broken engagement, a wise old Irishman told me that every broken engagement was an answered prayer.

    Godspeed.

  2. Keoni Galt says:

    It's beyond me why wives ever nag their husbands to do anything, when they could just sit on his face and ask nicely.

    That last line made me literally laugh out loud.

  3. Simon Grey says:

    "It's beyond me why wives ever nag their husbands to do anything, when they could just sit on his face and ask nicely."

    Well said, man. Well said.

  4. When discussing broken engagements with friends (usually their friends have walked away from fiancees) I remark "I've never seen a case of a broken engagement that wasn't absolutely the right move."

    "If you have a bad feeling about it just lurking inside you… step away from her for a couple days, away from her pheromones, away from the genetic information you get from her lingering kiss, away from the draw of her cleavage and the curve of her ass. Then think about it just a little more. If she's the one, she'll still be the one three days from now."

    What about this though? I've got a friend who is still crushing on his heinous bitch of an ex. He tells me "every time we're apart I remember I love her, and every time I'm with her I remember why we broke up." What sort of psychology is going on when getting closer to someone increases your rational discernment instead of masking it with chemicals?

    " It's beyond me why wives ever nag their husbands to do anything, when they could just sit on his face and ask nicely."

    Lulz. I've been thinking a lot about why this is, and I'm thinking that naggy wives feel being cheery to deliver a request is some kind of unconscionable concession – "why should I act happy to HIM? HE'S the one who's pissing me off!" From everything I've seen nagging is tied in with a lot of resentment.

  5. "It's beyond me why wives ever nag their husbands to do anything, when they could just sit on his face and ask nicely."

    -Because they need to be told to sit on our faces first. >D

    Cheers,
    Fred

  6. Badger – he's bonded to her with some kind of mix of dopamine and vasopressin, so he experiences missing her when she isn't around. But when he is with her, her behavior is so awful that despite his bonding to her his ration thinking overrides his attraction to her and he wants to move away from her.

    Both near to her and far from her, he's attracted. She's just not being a bitch to him when she isn't there.

    Very toxic set up. He should never she her again if at at possible. He should view her as an emotional black hole.

  7. THOMAS AMUNDSEN says:

    hahaha so true!

  8. Badger, I wonder if he wrote down all the crappy things she did in explicit detail, if it would help him to read that when he misses her.

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