Hey Athol got an update for you. We have now broke up which sucks. My girl said she just wants to remain friends and says she’ll miss me if we dont.
Part of me wants to remain friends and try win her back but i dont want to keep her company while she finds/looks for someone else, I told her i cant be her friend and ive cut all contact with her. Is that going to kill my chances of getting her back? she’s pretty angry about it but fuck it im pissed off.
The general rule is that there is no halfway with women on break ups. Either they are with you fully, or it’s over. By asking you to be her friend, she’s actually asking you to be her Beta / Orbiter / Chump / Backup Plan / Shoulder to Cry On. It’s a huge Fitness Test. All that does is tie you up emotionally and you can’t get to move on and find someone new. It’s quite cruel really. I’d just stick with the plan of no contact for a few weeks at least.
If she’s got a bunch of crap at your house, just box it up and tell her to come get it on the weekend, or she can bid on it on eBay the week after that.
There is a reasonable chance that she may miss you enough and be impressed with such a strong display to want to come back to you. There’s no guarantee to that at all, just a chance. Otherwise your plan is just to move on without her. Get fit and be happy as best you can. Start dating again. Date her friends ideally. Fill up your Facebook with pictures of you with women. Ideally half-naked types draped on you.
But if you Friendzone yourself with her, that’s all you can ever hope for from her.