I’ve been doing a lot of thinking between that previous relationship and my current one… In this new-found heaven I have (haha!), we talk about sex. A lot. all the time. Just started out that way! And it took me a bit to feel comfortable doing just that – talking. I got hung up on the words. Yes, cue the beta posts around hubby feeling the need to “respect” me, and not wanting to use dirty terms. That left us with the clinical ones. I find that I read your blog for some of those words. It’s given me a voice. Yes, when my partner uses a dirtier word for the first time, it still shocks me a little, but we keep talking about it. Mostly via text, because we’re still slightly long-distance in locations (2 hrs apart, so totally doable).
But we finally got to the point where he was asking if the “c word” was offensive to me (because I just used the word pussy). I thought he meant cunt. Ugh. He meant clit. Funny stuff ensued, and we agreed that cunt and dick are off-limits. Fascinating stuff for me, and has DEFINITELY engaged me in much more sex talk! And bonus points for my business trip when I met up with friends, got quite tipsy, and used the f-word in a text to him for the first time. Sometimes alcohol _does_ work!
Anyway, keep your posts laced with the dirty words, please! And maybe this is another thought-starter for a post… just trying to help.
Hi C, I’m glad I’ve helped you!
Just be open open to trying new things and accept that most aren’t going to work in the bedroom. Only about 30% of everything Jennifer and I have tried have worked for us. Sometimes the failure is funny, sometimes it’s a little bit like “ow ow ow!” But the 30% that does work is wonderful forever.
LOL at the C word confusion!
Seriously, I need another word for fuck. This texting all the time can get a little… repetitive!
Fuck, screw, grind, pounce, take me, spank me sweetly, sleep together, roll in the hay, love, make out, make love, sleep with, get laid, have sex, know, do it, be intimate, have intercourse, have it away, have it off, jazz, eff, hump, lie with, bed, have a go at it, bang, get it on, bonk, ass, nooky, nookie, piece of ass, piece of tail, roll in the hay, shag, P in V.
Go get busy
You’ve just gone way past the awesome line, Athol!! This *will* be reflected in book sales as I plan my gift giving this year!
As an aside… “that previous relationship and my current one… In this new-found heaven I have…” I had read her first email with minor confusion thinking she was talking about an old boyfriend or something. Just realized when I was finishing off this post that she was referring to her marriage phases as pre-MMSL and post-MMSL. I love a success story, but wow.