I’ve run into a mental stumbling block with this cover thing.
I mess around and come up with something that expresses a “pro-marriage” vibe and it’s tooooooo sappy and Beta.
I mess around and come up with some sexy and fun and it looks like I’m “pro-cheating” and it’s toooooo evil and Alpha.
Oy…. still thinking. The book covers so much ground that it’s hard to sum up in single image or a 12 word sentence without falling into one or the other of the sappy or evil groups.
But I’ve had a growing thought today as I’ve looked at hundreds of photos today. I’m at a loss as to why a image of two people locked in a romantic and sexy embrace gets flagged as “young lovers,” “boyfriend looks at girlfriend,” “passion,” “office affair,” ‘infidelity” and so on. There’s nary a “husband” or a “wife” or “married sexy” flagged in there anywhere. Even photos of women getting screwed in their wedding dress don’t get flagged as “wife.” “Bride” yes, “wife” no.
To me getting married was an erotic expectation. Having a wife meant having sex. Wives do more than just have sex of course, but isn’t it odd that “stripper” is a hotter sexier word than “wife?” One you just get to look as she jiggles her boobs and spins on a pole. The other takes all her clothes off and opens her legs for you. Isn’t a wife far sexier in reality than a stripper? If you could choose to have either a half an hour with your wife or half an hour with a stripper, which would you choose?
Why the hell have the very words that define our most important sexual relationships, been strip mined of their eroticism?
Anyway I’ll figure the cover and title out eventually, I’m tired of thinking about it for today. But it’s bugging the crap out of me that “Married Man Sex Life” plus a sexy image automatically makes a mental jump to adultery a la Ashley Madison.
I might have to call the subtitle “Wife #$%^ing 101” and be done with it. How else can I make people understand?