Okay ladies and gentlemen, the wife has her two cents…I love my husband very much. I respect him very much for putting this all out there, but there is a limit to the detail that can be divulged to the world at large. There is no more story related to emotional affairs to be shared.
Also, he has said repeatedly that we have both made mistakes. We have acknowledged that and worked through that together. That’s part of why our marriage is so strong. We hoped that by sharing this part of “the story”, people would be helped…but this has now blown all out of proportion and re-stating what has already been said is getting tiresome.
I am not a Stepford Wife…but I am exceedingly, to a fault, easygoing and non-confrontational. That has caused me to not recognize the seriousness of what was going on, and to not state my case and “claim my territory” firmly enough to make an impression. I was a slow learner, but yes now the lesson has been learned.
And as to the “do you ever get angry” part of the question…I get angry with very few people in this world, honestly. I get annoyed with Athol sometimes, as he does with me, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times we’ve yelled at each other (or for that matter the number of times I’ve yelled at anyone).
I don’t let myself be used as a doormat either. I label myself as “easygoing” or “submissive”, but that does not mean I am brainless, have no will or opinion, or am not treated well and loved by my husband.
So yes, I am here, I am backing him up 100%, and I need to say that more often and more publicly (see, the non-confrontational thing I’m working through rears it’s ugly head) Phew. I think that’s it for now…