Are you saying you would leave Jennifer if she didn’t orgasm from your tongue/hands/dick? What if Jennifer were a surgeon working 12 hour days 6 days a week and she said her intense work schedule kills her libido? You would leave her?
If Jennifer were a 12 hour day 6 days a week person, that would be something she was actively choosing. Which means choosing not to be sexually available to me. Leave? Quite possibly. But I might just cheat in that situation as well. I’d get so lonely and horny I couldn’t take it. Just being honest.
If it was something she wasn’t choosing, I would struggle through as long as I could. Years most likely, but I have my limits. Call me a fragile male ego, but I need to see a woman respond to me to be happy. The nights where she declines orgasm almost without exception fall into the bottom 25% of quality of sexual experiences together. I still take the cookie of course, but it’s just not going to make the highlight reel.
I’m pretty much focused on keeping the containment fields up so I concentrate on sex with just Jennifer. It’s hard sometimes. There’s also a public safety concern as well, if I lost Jennifer the resultant shockwave would cause all the women in a 300 yard radius to become pregnant.
I do love her.
I had thought about adding regarding vasectomy, that should I be stuck on a desert island with a beautiful woman… I’m not sure I could be trusted with a gun that shoots blanks!
OMG Seriously. I’d start shooting everyone…
Jennifer and I have talked about it actually. I’m just a force of nature and I know I would fold.
When I came to see Dad before he died last year we debated whether to just send me, or us, or all four of us…
…I was just like… “um… prostitution is legal in New Zealand.” :-/
So we all came. I probably wouldn’t have actually used one, but I would have spent 87.3% of my total mental energy on not using one. Which isn’t much of a vacation really.
It must have been quite a decision to unveil yours and Jennifer’s sex life in detail. Somebody needs to, but the reluctance to go first is pretty basic.
There’s an element of difficulty about revealing our sex life, but it’s not too crazy really. We’ve made some missteps over the years, but not terrible failures, so there’s not really major skeletons in the closet to worry about.
As it turns out though, it’s not actually the skeletons in your closet that matter. In fact I think they are actually something comforting for people to latch onto and bitch about and propel you to greater fame. Look at Eliot Spitzer – he’s got a talk show now which is by all accounts a more fun job and better paid than being governor of New York.
What seems to happen is people project onto you their fears and anger about sex and react to that. So there’s not too much way to counter that.
Athol thank you for saving my marriage and getting me laid again. Everything was a complete shambles before you came along and put me straight. I cannot thank you enough for everything you have done. Can I take a minute to explain how God has a wonderful plan for your life?
I’m frightened that I might have given you the ability to successfully breed.
Athol I know you are an atheist now, but you have a Christian background and so much of what you write about is Biblical. You just say it with more courage than the feminized church does. You’re clearly helping people and doing God’s Work. I know you’ve said you were angry for a long time about church etc. If you ever want to talk or debate things I’d love to do that with you.
Thank you, I do appreciate your interest and your good intentions for me. I take the whole “God’s Work” thing as a sincere compliment. Truly. I am quite flattered by it.
However in terms of any religion, I simply don’t care anymore or have time to debate it. I’ve basically decided that this MMSL project is going to be my life’s work, and that’s about it. My only concern with religious belief, or lack thereof, is whether that helps or hinders my goal of saving marriages and making people have more enjoyable sexual lives together. I work with everyone.
I am just done with thinking, and am a man of action. I no longer have any interest in what comes out of most peoples mouths, the only real message of interest to me is what they do. I thought quite heavily for the first half of my life and I intend to be far more active for the second half of my life.
A human being is just lazy and contributes nothing. Be a human doing. God tires of your prayers, nagging is not a spiritual gift. I thought faith was a verb… an action… it’s funny how shit falls into place when you start actively working on something. How many miracles do you think you need, before you do what you’re supposed to do?
Dammit, I’m preaching.