You’re going to get hurt in your marriage. Repeatedly. Welcome to reality.
I’m not just talking about just sex here, though obviously being cheated on ranks right up there at the top of what hurts the most. I’m just saying that your spouse is going to do things to you either out of ignorance, carelessness, revenge or malice that will hurt you. You will find yourself looking at them and wondering what on earth your were thinking when you decided to join your life to theirs.
Jennifer and I have always had a good marriage together and we’ve strengthened and grown together over time. We’re better together now than we have ever been. But that path upwards isn’t like riding an escalator, it’s a lot of average days, some great days and some truly terrible days. Overall though it’s a positive progression. But those truly terrible days can become stumbling blocks to that positive progression if you hold onto them.