Anonymous has left a new comment on your post “Why Men Are So Paranoid About Girls Night Out“:

After spending all my life in the nightclub business, both in management and in ownership… I will flat out tell you that the reason I will forever remain single… is…. well… because I spent all of my life in the nightclub business. You can only follow them, join them, cock block for so long… but eventually, there will come a time when “Eve” demands that she be entitled to her “grrrrrrls night out” out without out you, lest you be branded a control freak who will not let her have any ‘fun’ with the members of the “Ya ya’s”…all of whom, I might add, are all divorced and looking for cock, and expecting your innocent princess to join them. You will be held as the enemy, preventing her from having her fun, while at the same time, trying to convince you that she is the “different” one from all of her ‘grrrrrlfriends’ who all actually starred in the latest “what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas” commercial.

The years of watching married women during convention season, away from their mates…. the years of “happy hour” hand holdings under the table with a fellow co worker… and the DIVORCE PARTIES that I have personally hosted (all held by women…..men never have divorce parties at bars… they’re usually the ones blowing their heads off somewhere after they learned about the happy hour romance to begin with) have led me to the conclusion that absolutely NO woman who claims to be in a relationship or married is to ever……..and I mean EVER be trusted without her man for “grrrrrrls night out”.

You can argue NAWALT (Not All Women Are Like That) with me all day long…. but trust me… I’ve seen enough through my years to know that not ONE of them can be trusted.

You would be surprised as to how many of your wives tried to pick ME up once learning I was the owner….

Athol: This is a somewhat stronger comment than I would make. I would make the NAWALT argument in a general sense, but in the self-selecting group of women exhibiting disloyal behavior by purposely going to bars without their husband, it is I agree simply an unreasonable risk. I don’t balance a little red gas can on top of the electrical panel either. Bad things can happen.

The Convention Season comment is perhaps the most worrying one. It’s the perfect cover story and opportunity moment. She may even be required to go.

And yes. I’ve never heard of a man having a divorce party. Women yes, men no.

 

18 years ago his wife confessed guilt to something moderately inappropriate on the cheating scale. It was awkward and painful, but they got past it and life continued on without anything similar happening again. There were kids, careers and and a home. She got sick and had a total hysterectomy, and that’s turned a lot of her sex drive down. He’s frustrated, so he searched the Internet and came here.

But having read MMSL… he knew in a sickening flash from the past that the something moderately inappropriate 18 years ago, was in fact very likely all the way inappropriate. He told me the details and it fit pretty well that she had been all the way. I told him so.

But it seemed to me to be an isolated incident, followed by nearly two decades of faithfulness. There were no STDs, no pregnancy issues. Just the most horrible WTF-did-I-do experience for her. We emailed back and forth about what to do. Deep down he always knew anyway. He forgave her long ago, just never told her for fear of upsetting the apple cart.

Finally I told him…

I may very well have advised something different to him 18 years ago. But it’s now. 18 years is a long time to carry such a burden.