What Is Sexy?

Sitting on your butt and looking beautiful is only sexy if you’re a woman. If you’re a man…
Playing football is sexy.
Watching football, not so much.
Making money is sexy.
Reading about someone else making money, not so much.
Being in good physical shape is sexy.
Talking about getting into shape, not so much.
Walking up to a woman and starting a conversation is sexy.
Reading pick up artist blogs and books, not so much.
Wearing nice clothes is sexy.
Thinking about wearing nice clothes, not so much.
Getting a promotion at work is sexy.
Complaining about work, not so much.
Traveling to another country is sexy.
Watching the Discovery Channel not so much.
Doing something a little risky is sexy.
Always being safe, warm and dry, not so much.
Saying what you want in bed is sexy.
Watching porn about what you want in bed, not so much.
Becoming a Black Belt is sexy.
Playing Street Fighter on XBOX, not so much.
Re-telling the story about something you did is sexy.
Telling the story about something someone else did, not so much.
Finishing your high fantasy novel and holding the finished book in your hand is sexy.
Playing World of Warcraft, not so much.
You can’t do everything that is sexy, just pick a couple things and get started on them. Everything else on the list that you can’t do fully, are fine to enjoy as entertainment and fun. Just make sure you’re in motion.
Don’t be boring. Even your colossal screw ups can be better than doing nothing.
 

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Comments

  1. Anonymous says:

    I'm excited because my husband will be taking jiu jitsu four days a week from here on out. Preparing for attraction levels to sky rocket!

  2. Anonymous says:

    So playing fantasy football is not sexy, but winning the money at the end is?

  3. Anonymous says:

    Doing martial arts is sexy

    Coming a close second in a tournament or having a near miss in a grading and not being able to walk properly for a week – just ain't.

    Believe me. BT, DT.

  4. Anonymous says:

    "Coming a close second in a tournament or having a near miss in a grading and not being able to walk properly for a week – just ain't."

    Yeah, everyone I know who did Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (about half a dozen guys) now has fucked-up knees and shoulders that usually had to be surgically reconstructed and required years of physical rehab…and they still can't run or squat heavy weights or go backpacking. Most of these guys are half my age but they move like arthritic old men. Fuck that. I'm not about to become a semi-crippled wretch with hefty medical bills just to impress some woman.

  5. Anonymous says:

    Black Belt in MMA is sexy.
    Black Belt in BJJ, not so much.

    (Unless your last name is Gracie).

  6. Looking Glass says:

    @ Anon 9:29 AM:

    Make sure to google "kevin brown's guide to avoiding injury" (page 5 of the article). Make sure your husband does those. That'll help… a lot.

  7. Kat says:

    Love this post!

  8. Lainey says:

    Remodeling the kitchen is sexy. It might take 3 years, but it is very hot to work together, and save a bundle of money!

  9. Ted says:

    So the take away here is all the wife has to do is look good, but the guy has to bust his ass?! Where is the equality we were promised?

  10. Anonymous says:

    Being in a band or playing an instrument is sexy.
    Listening to music (without dancing) isn't as sexy.

    Everyone try one!

  11. Ted says:

    I play several instruments. While I can say that it certainly helps with pulling interest, over the long haul it can work against you. Ask any woman married to a drummer how much she likes hearing him practice after, say, 10 years!

    Now if she only hears you play when you are out with the band? Total win!

  12. Anonymous says:

    Lainey, remodelling the kitchen is sexy if you're a tradesman who's brought in to do it.

    Remodelling your own kitchen isn't…

  13. Lainey says:

    "Lainey, remodelling the kitchen is sexy if you're a tradesman who's brought in to do it.

    Remodelling your own kitchen isn't… "

    Well, my husband is extremely handy, and pretty much self-taught. We have been working on it together for a few years. Unfortunately, our very affordable-previously-foreclosed home came with a mouse infested kitchen.

    It's sexy to take care of your family this way. It's sexy to work together and create something, and learn as you go (like tiling, cabinetry, and installing countertops). It's also very, very sexy when your wife's love language is spending time together and works of service. So, yes, to me it is very sexy. :)

  14. Mike M. says:

    Allow me to suggest Okinawan Karate. Any style will do, though I train in Matsamura Orthodox. It's called "The Old Man's Style" for a reason. Easy on your body – and lethally hard on your opponent's.

  15. Lainey says:

    "So the take away here is all the wife has to do is look good, but the guy has to bust his ass?!"

    No, I think sitting there looking good for my husband would work for maybe an hour. An attractive woman who is lazy, irresponsible, or selfish isn't sexy for long. We all have to pull our weight.

    The guy shouldn't have to slave for his wife to be sexy, but if he knows what she finds sexy and shows her how he does it – even a couple things go a long way. :)

  16. Athol Kay says:

    I think getting all busted up from martial arts isn't a great idea.

    "So the take away here is all the wife has to do is look good, but the guy has to bust his ass?!"

    To an extent yes.

  17. Ted says:

    Of course. Equality sure has worked out for the guys, huh?

    Here is my thing. I'm good with the fact that the man is supposed to do all the hard work around the house, lead the family, etc. But I'm tired of the PC police trying to cover the fact and make it seem like women and men are equal, when in fact women themselves don't WANT equality.

    Your book clearly shows that women generally want a "man" on par with older standards of masculinity, but popular media and even the work place tell men that they need to be kinder, gentler, and in touch with their feelings. We are being lied to!

    I'm beginning to feel like feminism is just one big giant shit test for all men, and I think the vast majority of us are failing it. :(

  18. David says:

    Anyone here ever heard of a little phenomenon called pussy begging?

  19. David says:

    "So the take away here is all the wife has to do is look good, but the guy has to bust his ass?! Where is the equality we were promised?"

    No, no. Please. You're gonna hand your power over that easily? Come on. No, you decide what's sexy enough for you. If her sitting on her ass looking pretty isn't enough, well – then it's not enough, whatever anyone else has to say about it. You don't see women holding back on their demands. Why should you?

    The majority of men are spineless sellouts for a little pussy. Doesn't mean you and I have to be like that, Ted.

  20. Ted says:

    David – I get that. What I'm trying to point out though is that the standard belief is that men have to work hard, and women just have to look good. On a personal level, I very much pick and choose what my acceptable standards are. But there is certainly an air of entitlement from the female persuasion.

    I'm not sure that most men are spineless sellouts. I think it is more that they are all indoctrinated to believe that women want a "nice guy" when in fact they want something more like a barely civilized bad boy. Having only recently found this (and other) sites discussing Game and these issues, I'm still going through my "bitter and angry" stage for being duped by this horse crap.

  21. The MacNut says:

    "I think it is more that they are all indoctrinated to believe that women want a "nice guy" when in fact they want something more like a barely civilized bad boy."

    More like most women want a nice guy with a touch of bad boy-how much of a touch depends on the woman. But yeah, basically women like decent guys with spines who won't let themselves be taken advantage of-even by their women.

    It's like Athol's always saying on this site and in the book-women want both Alpha AND Beta traits in their men. And yeah, only the most good-looking male-model actor-type men can look good just sitting around. The rest of us have to be DOING something.

  22. Killa Hertz says:

    “Re-telling the story about something you did is sexy.”

    Re-telling it and re-telling it and re-telling it until people walk away the second they realize which one it is…not so much.

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