One of the things that husbands most complain about, is feeling that their wife is not really into having sex with them. Their complaint is stated something like this…
Oh sure, she hassex with me, but she just doesn’t seem that into it.
Oh sure, she has orgasms, but she just doesn’t seem to be that into it.
Oh sure, she does initiate sex once in a while, but she’s just doing that to please me I think, it’s not like she’s really into it.
Oh sure, she does give me handjobs and blowjobs, but she just doesn’t seem that into it.
See how that works?
You can even be giving a guy a lot of sex, and varied sex to boot, and he can still have this sense that you aren’t into him… which hurts his feelings. He’ll still have the sex of course, it will just feel a little hollow to him. Note that you can even be really into him, and he won’t pick up on it fully.
The problem is usually very simple… you aren’t telegraphing to him in a language he understands that you’re into him when you’re in the act of having sex.
The solution is also just as simple… hold him tight when you’re having sex. When you hold him firmly against you, that means in the language of touch that you really want him there.
If you’re in the missionary position and have your arms by your sides, or lightly on his back/arms, it’s a weak display of interest. But if you firmly grip his ass and pull him into you in time with his thrusts, that’s a whole different message. Or if you wrap your arms around his back and hold him tightly, it means he isn’t going to be able to get up off you without a struggle, which means you’re communicating you really want him there.
All that pulling him hard against you is going to make him work a little harder as well. Don’t worry that you’re going to collapse him against you like a ton of bricks, he’s strong enough to handle it. All that will happen is that you’ll make him work with extra muscle tension in his body and that is a key to orgasm in both sexes.
So hold him tight against you when you’re having sex together. It’s so simple and easy to do.
(Bonus Move: Say “fuck me harder” 10-15 seconds before he comes. Spank him a little…)