Several people have been concerned in the comments of yesterdays post that if the husband leaves a marriage because the wife is Batshit Crazy, that leaves the children all alone with a Batshit Crazy mother. The thought being that the family courts are slanted toward women and against the rights of fathers. The feeling is that you have to stay in the marriage to defend the children against their mother.
These are horrible decisions to make, and to leave your children with someone you consider dangerous is going to seem badly wrong on both an intellectual and emotional level. You are absolutely not wired to abandon your children to danger.
And make no mistake, men are hardwired to be White Knights for their loved ones. If you were say faced with a lion starting to size up munching on your kids, you would very likely perform as nature intends and purposely fight a battle with the lion that you know from the get go you will lose. But from your sacrifice, your family is bought enough time to flee to safety.
Unfortunately when you are dealing with a Batshit Crazy woman armed with a Batshit Crazy family court, the person that is by far in the greatest danger is you. You can stand your ground and fight the good fight, but it can only take a Batshit Crazy wife a handful of lying phone calls to the authorities to have you mired into legal difficulties. Or even jailed. Then your sacrifice can be all for naught as your children remain with the Batshit Crazy and you won’t get to see them anyway.
All divorce is an awful experience, but you can have a properly managed legally advised divorce, or a chaotic ass-reaming by the system divorce. As emotionally wrong as it may seem, your best first move maybe moving out and filing. (Note that you usually should NOT move out and give up the house, but if she’s really dangerous to you, you may have to leave.) Before she starts calling the police on you, or trying to hit you with a hammer, you need to be hooked up with a good lawyer to advise you.
In short, if you are mired in trying to defend yourself or even worse jailed, there’s not much you can do for your children anymore. So like they say on the plane, put your own oxygen mask on first, then help your kids get theirs on.
Batshit Crazy women left unsupervised with children, always screw up somehow. Which is why your next move should be getting all the children smart phones to “stay in contact with them”. Of course the real reason is the built in video camera and the ability for the kids to upload mommy belting their brother to youtube.