“You pity him. He’s still fat, still depressed, still lazy, still forgetful, still hungry all the time, still impulsive, still smelly, and you? You haven’t looked and felt this great since highschool.”
“He drank, he smoked, he still took head ache medicine, he didn’t care about exercising, etc. Our paths diverged right then and there. A few months later I was pregnant and so breaking up wasn’t much of an option. He wasn’t a bad guy, and so I stayed to see if I could make things work.”
“It is sad to uproot children from the two people they love the most — we should try at all costs to avoid it — but it is also sad to show children loveless, hateful, abusive, or lifeless relationships. Breaking off a marriage is a big deal for everyone involved but staying in one that isn’t working can be just as big of a deal.”
Sex Rank changes are brutally effective in causing changes in a relationship. The MAP works as advertised, your spouse will either get better and you’ll get more of what you want from them… or you’ll be better prepared to attracted a partner that will give you what you want.
Also it’s interesting to note how the Rationalization Hamster works in these situations. After a marked increase in her Sex Rank, she logically wants to leave the relationship because she’s hotter than him, but her hamster gets her pregnant and she talks herself into staying with him. After a while though, the hamster changes it’s mind and it talks her out of the relationship. He just takes too long to make the change.
And for the really dark thought… the turning point where she suddenly becomes interest in “living healthy” a.k.a. getting way hotter, comes in the aftermath of her husband being unable to defend her against an intruder in the house. It’s a marked negative factor in your relationship after you fail in a physical defense of your wife. To be sure the husband was clearly outgunned from the beginning, and it is by no means a reasonable expectation that an unarmed regular guy can best a gruesome thug with weapons and the element of surprise, but try explain that to ancient female biological wiring.