Reader: So she’s doing something with her hair. Something complicated that females do. She was working at it for a minute or 2.
Both her hands are busy in her hair when her cell phone rings. Its in her pocketbook on the floor. We are both standing next to it. She asks me to please answer it for her since she’s in the middle of this hairdo…
Instantly, I perceive this as the hold-my-pocketbook or hold-my-drink for-me request and reply get your own phone. Not meanly, just matter-of-factly.
She pleads, “I’m right in the middle of this and don’t have a free hand, please answer it for me.”
I sense its not worth pushing the issue here and allow a little comfort beta and so I pick it up and give it straight to her (I don’t actually answer it) – by then she was able to wrassle a hand free and took it from me.
Failed shit test? No biggie husband beta comfort move?Over-analysis?
Athol: I think it was a reasonable request, and it sounded like she asked in a reasonable tone of voice, so I would have done it for her. It would take you two seconds of effort to save her undoing two minutes of effort.
I’m fine with holding Jennifer’s drink or bag, it’s all part of the Princess Fiona plan she’s on. I’ll do Beta stuff for her, she just has to make sure I’m Laid Like Tile(TM).
Though maybe I’d answer the phone pretending to be her smart-arse butler or something. “Madame is currently indisposed, may I forget a message for you?”
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Agree that it was a reasonable request, but…
completely OT…
Athol, that "Laid Like Tile(TM)" metaphor needs to go. Yes, tile, carpet, and other flooring gets laid, and laid well, but afterwards it is expected to, and does, get walked all over, which is not an inspiring image.
Exactly, I think a lot of guys over think some of this…your girlfriend/wife has her purse in one hand, groceries in another. You have a free hand. The door keys are in her pocket. She asks you to hold her purse so she can open the door…is that a shit test?
You need to watch for shit tests, but when you start seeing every little request as a shit test, you need to slow it down some.
Anon, "laid like tile" is an idiom, not an analogy.
Yep, an idiom for getting something ready to be walked on;-)
Good grief what's with the Debbie Downer stuff over "Laid Like Tile". Don't make me link Amy Grant songs until everybody cheers up.
Yeah Athol, we're gonna need to deep-six the Amy Grant songs….
When it comes to over-analyzing shit tests (something common with guys new to game) I always come back tot his quote by my buddy Dave, "When she’s interested, always keep doing what made her interested. She’s not infatuated with future you, she’s infatuated with now you."
When I was new to the game, he constantly reminded me that I needed to "be less of a player, and more of [myself]." Don't go overboard on The Game – its a game played with subtlety of those involved.
slightly different than marriage, I know, but when I go out to pick up and meet ladies, I don't bring props, I don't palm read, I don't wear goofy hats. A lot of the game is solid communication skills, not gimmicks or tricks.
Anyway, there's my two pennies. If I may shamelessly plug: I have a post entitled "Alpha Gold" which sums this comment up nicely.