White Knight vs Horny Knight

Jennifer and I were going out for breakfast this morning. We fluffed about in the morning and I had my shower and then she had hers. I’m messing about on the computer waiting for her to be done in the bathroom when she comes barrelling down the hall with her phone to her ear in her high alert / panic mode.
It turns out that instead of going to breakfast with me, she had scheduled an online meeting… ten minutes ago, and now she was (1) late for her meeting (which is utterly bizarre for Jennifer to ever do lol), and (2) standing me up for breakfast.
In the moment I was mostly hungry, but I was slightly annoyed, but also had the “oh yeah I remember she had that meeting now” as well. So in the final analysis I was still hungry.
So I left her to have her meeting.
Due to Connecticut state law requiring that a Dunkin Donuts be placed with a half mile of any traffic light, I arrived at my destination within a few minutes. I ordered coffee and food and made the return journey back home.
Jennifer was still in her meeting of course, and I dropped off a medium Pumpkin coffee light no sugar, and an egg white and sausage on a croissant next to her. In return I received a doey-eyed look of gratitude.
A few minutes later I noticed her glasses on the counter in the bathroom next to her curling iron. Scooped them up and dropped them off to her slightly squinting self. Again she had that look of a three-year-old being given surprise cotton candy.
After that I pretty much ignored her and let her have her meeting. About an hour later she finished up and to her credit she did immediately make a beeline line to me and commenced the cuddling, kissing and thanking. In days gone by, that’s likely where it would end and I would have been happy enough with having been nice to her. She didn’t intend to screw me over, I do enjoy being nice to her.
However, having just shovelled on a metric ton of Beta support and comfort building, all that does is get me to “white knight”. One must maintain a little Alpha and take a slightly more mercenary tone by being a “horny knight”. As such, it’s fair to mention the blowjob I received was quite fantastic.
It’s all about balance.
Jennifer: Some how I knew this was making the blog… You were very nice to me this morning though. (and I didn’t intend to stand you up…I’m on vacation mode…TOTALLY forgot about the meeting…hate that…and hey, you got a blow job out of it, didn’t you?!)

Comments

  1. Athol… do you have any thoughts about when a girl despises giving blow jobs? To the point where just thinking about it makes me gag and the actual act of doing it has made me throw up… and that's *before* the grand finale.

    I am nearing the end of a pregnancy and in the 6 weeks postpartum period where no sex is recommended (it did take 6 weeks last time for me to heal up enough to even be able to tolerate sex), I know my husband is going to need SOMETHING from me, but the thought of dishing out blow jobs like candy makes me cringe a little. I know hand jobs are another option, but even at a 50/50 ratio of the two… that is way more BJs than I think my gag reflex can handle. (I want to throw up just thinking about it >_<)

    On the same note… WTF is the woman supposed to receive during a 'no sex allowed for medical reasons' hiatus? It hardly seems fair that I get to sacrifice my vagina, my boobs and most of my sleep to a new baby and my husband's the only one getting any jollies out of it.

  2. Obviously you husband isn't alpha enough and doesn't possess a sufficiently high sex rank above yours, otherwise you wouldn't even be asking this question, LOL.

  3. Anonymous – its not about sex rank but about preferences and caring. When the hormones are dodgy, some foods or things become nausea inducing. I would respectfully suggest the dear husband would not like to make his wife feel nauseous, so I suggest NO blow jobs. Plenty of people get by without them EVER. Hand jobs should be totally fine – look up the theory online – they can be very nice and made better in lots of ways, e.g. through a little fantasy. You might also try other types of sex with different body parts (in some the man does all the work – even better!!). If you don't know what I mean tell me and I'll write an article for my blog. The other ladies might be better placed to say what their husbands provided to them when they had new babies at home, but I would suggest a nice massage, lots of cuddles, cooked dinners, changing the baby and caring for the toddler while mum sleeps …

  4. Like Athol I have a very high sex drive and my wife has learned over the years that if I don't get consistent "relief" my attitude sucks. But sometimes, especially now that she is going through menopause, she doesn't always feel like full vaginal sex. And while she does like give me blow jobs sometimes she just isn't up for it. She has learned to get creative in other ways though and we never miss a beat. Like she always says, "it's still sex and it's all good."

    Candice – I checked out your blog and it was very interesting. I'm sending the link to my wife. I know she will find the menopause info very valuable and if you do write an article about alternative forms of sex I know she will probably comment.

  5. The student is ready to learn says:

    Great post. I have the book and am starting to work the MAP steps. I've been married for 14 years and can now how absolutely beta I have been. Can you provide some insight into how you transfer from verbal thank yous to "oral" thank yous?

    I am offing doing the little things like the breakfast and glasses. I need to more details on getting from there to the bj reward.

  6. Dear Evan – thank you for the comment. I've started on a series of posts about alternative forms of intimacy and would appreciate your comments. Menopause is really a challenge, but with patience can be leveraged for learning and wisdom. I'll try and capture my experiences and look forward to your and your wife's comments. :-) C

  7. An appreciative wife must be a wonderful thing.

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