Sexy Move: When He’s Tired

Often there’s the issue where the husband wants sex, but the wife is a little tired and not immediately responsive. Essentially a sexually neutral position. I often suggest that she allow herself to be seduced and go along with it, and after a few minutes of foreplay actually find herself quite enjoying the activities. It may not be crazy hot sex, but certainly pleasant, bonding and fun.
Or as some women have been known to say, “That wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be.”
But what if she wants it, and he’s feeling a little sexually dull?
Ladies try this…
Just say, “Why don’t you just lie back tonight and let me do all the work.”
Take your time getting him hard via fingers and blowjob, then go into the cowgirl position and while he’s inside you, masturbate yourself to orgasm.
It’s ahh… kinda difficult to not get excited by a woman orgasming impaled on your cock.
Jennifer: It’s also an amazingly good orgasm for me that way! (official disclaimer: you must have short fingernails lol)


  1. Anonymous says:

    I do this quite a bit actually! OK- not the orgasm part- but now I'm going to try! Good post indeed ;)

  2. That never happens to us, it is much more often that way you first described. She is tired or preocupied and is in a neutral position. The differrence now is I am going to go ahead anyway. If she organsms…fine, but not necessary and she even says that. Fortunately she orgasms easily. I wonder if she will become the way you suggested the more I take charge.

    This morning I did not give her a chance, took control and rocked her world!!!

  3. Nerdy Wife and Funny Husband says:

    Thanks for posting this. So many people always assume the man is always the one that wants sex and the woman is always the one that doesn't. But in reality it goes both ways.

  4. Anonymous says:

    Yes, please, whoever wants the sex, take the lead!

    It's one thing to expect your wife/husband to be receptive to your sexual advances (you are married, after all), and quite another to expect your wife/husband to suddenly transform into a nymph/satyr and do everything for you when s/he just really doesn't care about having sex right now. What's the motivation, I ask you?

    Ok fine, this is more of a response to Chip (bravo!) than to the post. It's just a pet peeve. You may be responsible for your own orgasm in this life, but I just don't think you should have to be responsible for turning yourself on because someone else wants to have sex with you. Want sex? Try turning your partner on.

  5. Anon, that is true to some degree. I do need to try to turn on my wife. And that is the way it is about 50% of the time. Sex is not on the forefront of her thinking like it is mine. Before I read the book (and a couple of other books) it bothered me. I mean, why doesn’t she initiate? But I am not waiting any longer. She will often start ho-hum but end OMG!!!! Sometimes the intensity of her orgasm even surprises her.

  6. Anonymous says:

    The cowgirl position and masturbating in front of him doesn't seem to work for me (sigh). Feels like it is hitting the right spot more with man on top. Also,being sexually submissive maybe the whole scenario of him not being interested and I am : taking charge,getting on top (dominant position) and masturbating (taking care of myself) just gives off a mental vibe of dominance that drops my interest down instead of helping it.

    Wondering if being sexually submissive in nature has its downside sometimes. Now if he ordered me to get on top and give him a little masturbation show that might work….

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