Comments on yesterday’s post…
Anon: How come there’s never anyone commenting on here who’s a SR 3 and is diligently going to spend the next two years fighting his way up to a 5? Everyone’s a 7 working up to a 9!
Meggerz: Eh, nobody thinks they are below average. Also, we are still susceptible to projection – because men value appearances so highly, they place undue importance on it when self-evaluating. Same with women and things like stability and personality.
I’m hatching a theory, though: I think men can more rapidly swing between numbers on the low end of the scale, while women can do so on the high end.
For a man, going from a 3 to a 5 could easily result from an attitude adjustment – a jolt of self-confidence (authentically felt or not). For a woman, going from a 7 to a 9 could be a change of clothes and makeup.
Because the 1-10 scale is both personal and sliding, I don’t think we can in any way have consistent unit sizes, or compare them to one another. My 7 is not your 7, and my 3 is not your 3, additionally, my 3-7 span is the same width as your 3-7 span.
In short, I read numbers as relative. 8:9? She is higher than him. 7:9? She is much higher than him. Period.
Athol: Meggerz is very much on point. The slightly easier answer is just to say that Sex Rank is best viewed as a metaphor and there’s far more art than science as to what makes up any particular number.
In general I don’t talk about people less than a 6 ever, because that way MMSL starts sounding like Fugly Club, and the first rule of Fugly Club is no one wants to buy books about Fugly Club. I also tend not to talk about 10s because suddenly there’s no more room for self-improvement, plus it feels like MMSL is in league with the beautiful people.
You can’t be anyone else anyway. Just figure out the way to be the best version of you that you can be. A pair of sevens can be in love with each other and just as happy as a pair of nines.
I’m going to disagree with the idea that men can kick up a low Sex Rank quickly while a woman can do the same to a higher one. I think the quick swing up in Sex Rank has exactly the same cause – namely clothing, appearance and general confidence. So a crappy male 3 could vault to a 5 with a new wardrobe and haircut, and then have a lot harder time getting from 5 to 6. While a woman who already has a good looking body could vault from 6 to 8 with a new wardrobe, hairdo and makeup. A woman who is 100 pounds overweight simply can’t waltz to being a 9 because she has a rocking hairdo and hot pink lipstick She might go from a 3 to a 5 though. A well off guy that drives a beat up heap and dresses way down, suddenly rocking suits and a BMW can go from 6 to 8 overnight.
The sudden clothing and appearance switch is doubly important because not only does it increase your attractiveness, it signals your purposeful intent to be attractive and is an all purpose “open for business” flag. People can lose a ton of weight / gain muscle and get a moderate increase in opposite sex interest, but when that body shape change is coupled with a sudden new wardrobe, heads turn a whole lot faster.
As a final thought…
Why are they called “Plus Size Models” when the obesity is clearly a minus?