Sexy Move: Use The Underside Of Your Tongue

This one is pretty damn simple. When you’re licking her clit, it’s completely natural to lick it just like you’re licking an ice cream or something. I.e. using the top part of your tongue.
The trouble is your tongue actually is slightly rough so it can get a grip on your food better. I mean it’s not crazy rough like a lion so you can lick the skin off a gazelle or anything, but it’s still a little rough… and a clit is very sensitive.
But the underside of your tongue is smooth as silk…
…I’ll wait while you all experiment with licking your lips or something…
Now ladies, imagine that sliding all over your clit….
Bonus Tip:  It’s much easier to lick with the underside of your tongue when you’re in a 69 position.


  1. IndyGuy77 says:

    Well I can honestly say I've never heard any complaints using my tongue on any part of a woman, but one's mileage may vary, I suppose.

  2. Anonymous says:

    Is this move endorsed by Jennifer?

  3. Anonymous says:

    If i particularly cared for oral I'd be excited.

  4. IndyGuy77 says:

    One must wonder if that's a man or woman that posted the last Anon comment.

  5. Anonymous says:

    Well, last time I checked I was a girl, albeit a technically challenged one. Perhaps hubby and I will try above mentioned tech, but in general, being gone down on is not a particular thrill for me, whether it's a girl or a guy doing it.


  6. Anonymous says:

    The accepted wisdom is every woman loves oral sex no matter what and that all a man has to do is become proficient and she'll melt.

    This is one of the biggest crocks of shit relationship websites peddle. Women like StargateGirl are very, very common. There are many women who if they never had to go through making their husbands stop trying to give them oral sex would be over the moon.

  7. StargateGirl and Anon5:07

    My wife is also anti-oral.

    She will give but refuses to receive. Her stated reason is that she doesn't like to smell herself on my face.

    Are there any reasons for not liking to receive oral other than "it's gross"?

    To go along with this, I am working very hard to counteract the messages that my wife sends our daughter about her own genitals. "Gross" and "Disgusting" are used a lot.


  8. Anonymous says:


    THAT is how it begins…

  9. Anonymous says:

    Reasons for not liking?

    Blame it on feminine hygiene ads, religious emotional baggage, sexual double standards, and our Puritan cultural roots. Genitals are icky and lady parts in particular cuz' they smell bad (periods!) and look weird(er).

  10. Anonymous says:

    Firstly, let me state: I am NOT anti-oral. It's just not on top of my list of desired activities. I enjoy it, I can get off on it, but I can take it or leave it. My husband does very well in the cunninglinguistics department. When I'm willing, he'll quite happily go to town. I'd still rather be boned. I derive much more satsafaction when his mouth is on other body parts. I will take some major boob loving any day over oral. boob-gasms do for me what clitoral orgasms do for others. I 98%+ of the time come from vaginal penetration alone, multiple times. Yeah, I'm one of those lucky few.

    As for hygiene/religious/emotional baggage. Got over that a while ago. and if baggage rears it's head, my husband and I talk about it. Need good communication to have good sex.


    anyway, being on the recieving end of oral is just not everyone's cup of tea. Just as not everyone enjoys anal, not everyone enjoys rough. There's a wide diversity of activities for people to enjoy, and there's nothing worng with not being "meh" at some of them.

  11. Agree with Stargategirl. Talking about it is key.

    I would also add, that people's tastes change over time. So as long as we are talking in the context of a marriage or a LTR that is monogomous, you will likely be with the same person for an extended period of time; what they like an dislike will evolve and change.

    I was surprised to find out the other day that Mrs Ponyboy is not as enthused about oral as she once was. Maybe I will try Athol's suggestion to see if I can change her mind…

  12. How many licks says:

    My wife likes when I go down on her and lately enjoys when I do the following: I position my body and head in the 69 position and start slowing licking. She likes a variety of licks, up and down, side to side, the alphabet and of course a bit of sucking the clit. I make sure I am not in any hurry, and if she doesnt cross the finish line within 15 mins, I just go for straight penetration.

    As she warms up I know when she is getting close because her legs start to open a little wider. First one leg and then the other. When that happens, I will firmly position my chin on her pubes and go for firm licking and sucking. Sometimes she will push her pubic bone up to make the chin-pubic bone connection firmer… sometimes my lower lip is indented from my teeth!

    When her legs are as wide as they are going to go, I know she's close. Then I will add my top teeth into the equation (the furthest away from her body). I will lick the flap of the labia (usually her left because I am usually positioned on the right side of her body) and firmly lick it into the underside of my top teeth. I'm not trying to bite (although sometimes I will playfully do so), but the firm tongue-teething usually sets her off. An intense panting orgasm is usually the result.

    Then I proceed with intercourse and she usually comes again when I do. Happiness all around. Enjoy!

  13. Anonymous says:

    Another woman weighing in on the oral sex for me. Not that into it either and not because of any particular hangups. I like having all sorts of breast and nipple stimulation. Penetration with fingers or penis is my delight.

    Sometimes I feel pressured to go ahead with oral because my husband thinks he is being sexier or innovative or a better lover if we do that. The problem is,I'm pretty meh about it as the above woman stated. Even reading through the more detailed description above would maybe leave me stimulated but not orgasmic. Sigh, I just love a good,stiff cock inside.

  14. Just wanted to let everyone know that a Susan Walsh thread recently degenerated into a protracted discussion of how much the male commenters love giving oral sex.

    All the guys went into this one head first.

  15. Anonymous says:

    So what if the guy likes doing it. Not every woman gets all that turned on about it and prefers other forms of stimulation.

    No matter how good you are at it (don't brag) or think you are at it (don't delusion) or how much some other woman liked it (don't compare) be willing to give it up and do what turns your current woman on. Isn't that the point?

    Why oh why does she have to like it and have something wrong with her if that isn't what turns her on no matter how you do it? Technique isn't everything…

  16. Note that giving her such a "BJ" is also a major beta move.

    Use sparingly.
    Men nowadays are going "heads in" on this because they are brainwashed into total servitude to the "goddesses".

  17. Stargate Girl says:

    Anonymous 11:26 said "Sigh, I just love a good,stiff cock inside. "

    Amen to that! And to the breast/nipple stimulation. Hubby likes to get me off via breasts before we even get to penetration. Good times!

  18. Anonymous says:

    Hans, my husband "demands" it. VERY alpha, and makes me all tingly and wet. ;)

    As for those that don't like it, I support you, too. It took me a long time before I actually liked it. Maybe just timing or tastes changing, but I am totally with you… If he's doing it to be edgy, meh. I can certainly identify with *preferring* hubby's stiff cock. Oh, melt!

  19. Athol Kay says:

    Hans – if she orgasms, she gets a flood of bonding oxytocin.

  20. Anonymous says:

    Are you kidding? What could possibly be better than a woman who likes giving BJ's and does not like me to go down on her?? And there are men that think this is bad? Really?

    I'll give the oral on the rare occasion that she wants it. But am I sorry that she hardly ever wants it? I think not.

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