As I’ve repeatedly stated, the MAP isn’t always going to make your wife more attracted to you and save your marriage. But it will make you more attractive to women in general and put you in a better place to attract women after a divorce. This particular reader tried for well over a year to turn things around and she still pulled the plug on him.
Reader: I just want to pass this on to you for what it’s worth. As you know, I came upon your advice too late to save my marriage. However, I took to heart your observation that whatever happens, working the plan is to my advantage: it would either help save the marriage or put me in a better position afterwards.
I was married for a long time, and I’m not 25 anymore, so a lot of the PUA stuff out there is not really for me. But the basics of pickup and MMSL are the same. Confidence, humor, playfulness, etc., so even though I’m more or less a mess after the divorce I’ve focused on not letting that show – and definitely not leading with it, which might have been my instinct fifteen years ago. Beta.
The end result is that it’s awfully easy to create attraction. Twice in the past month, I was surprised to hear girls I was with comment that we had, “good chemistry.” In fact, it’s almost too easy. The progression from the meet to the date to the bedroom is seamless, and I have to remind myself to be careful not to take things too far too fast. I feel like I could make them crazy obsessed with me if I wanted to, and if my conscience would let me get away with it.
Athol: I’m happy for you. At least now you have real proof that the trouble in the marriage wasn’t you. If you can pull other women with ease… that’s not a bad thing.