I want you to do an exercise.
I want you to think back and remember every time that you saw your wife react with excitement and positive sexual energy toward you. Especially back in the time you were dating. Write down all those moments, and what you think attracted her to you then.
Also be sure to write any moments or events that your wife says was particularly exciting to her. Things that turned her on.
This part is harder, but important. Remember all those moments when you saw your wife act attracted to another man. Oh I’m not saying she cheated or anything like that, just the times when you know she started showing Indicators of Interest in another guy. She just kept talking to him and laughing at his dumb jokes. She made excuses to see him again. She slapped his arm and smiled at him a whole lot. What was it about that guy in particular that made her vagina tingle? Write them all down.
Now remember all those moments where you experienced jealousy or that soul crunching dread that something didn’t feel right about letting a particular guy anywhere near your wife. What was it about that guy that made you feel small or threatened? What were the female-attracting qualities about him? Pretty much the worse you felt in that moment, the more important that attraction trigger is to your wife.
Once you have all that writtten down, go through the list and sort it into some semblance of order picking out the common patterns of your wife’s interest in men. Once you have that, you have your shopping list of what your wife’s personalized interest in Male Alpha Traits are.
And that’s your list of things to start working on. It’s a kind of an ugly exercise to put yourself through I know. But in your heart you know the truth about what turns her on. The more you improve those particular traits yourself, the more likely she is going to be attracted to you.