Susan Walsh apparently loved “Are Women Like Exotic Pets” and I have a reader complaint in the comments to a particular line I wrote…
“…I’ve told her quite firmly that she will do X Y and Z to attract me or she will face undesired outcomes.”
Reader: That sounds horrible.
Translation: You’re an asshole!
Athol: Ahhh… yeah… guilty as charged.
Look I do get other women interested in me you know. If Jennifer consistently failed to attract me, there would eventually be undesired outcomes for her. I’ve been explicitly clear about what does and doesn’t attract me and it’s absolutely not a mystery to her what works to pull my attention. I’m so conscious of what attracts me and sexually pleases me I gave her a one page cheat sheet to use lol. Plus it’s not all that hard to do, she can pretty much make me respond to her like she’s an Orion Slave Girl if she wants to.
Anyway… this is no different than for my male readers who come here because they are faced with the undesired outcomes of wives that have no interest in having sex with them, are about to divorce them, or are in affairs. If you fail to attract your partner, you will always experience undesired outcomes.
If you’re undesired by your partner, you’re going to have some undesired outcomes whether you want it or not. That’s what undesired means.
As an aside, I tell her “firmly” because she responds positively to my dominance over her. I’m not yelling, just communicating like an Alpha when I’m explaining my sexual needs. I tried gently luring out her sexual desires for the first decade or our marriage and found it vastly more effective to simply give her firm direction over what to do because she’s so submissive. She likes it, so I do it.
Jennifer: I have my own X Y and Z that Athol needs to do to attract me, or he’ll have undesired outcomes too. (For example, be a good and attentive father, be productive with whatever work he’s doing, take care of himself physically, communicate with me, don’t have an affair, etc.) And when he says he’s told me “firmly”…I’d say it’s more “clearly”…I appreciate not having to guess what he wants and what he’s thinking. No matter how long we’ve been married I can’t read his mind. (Oh and by the way, the Orion Slave Girls were actually the ones in charge.)