Reader: My husband has had the MMSL book for a while now, and has put quite a bit into action. Totally awesome
But he sexts me every now and then, and I am utterly useless at replying to him, or making up my own. My best idea I can come up with is that I have a spreadsheet open in Excel and I have no panties on. Seriously, I’m that nerdy.
I need help…. preferably anonymously. And without the excel text in there, because I was planning on sending that to him tonight
Do you have some sort of list of good sext ideas, because I am so totally lost.
Athol: Imagine what sort of sex you’d like that night and text him about it.
If he says something to you and you don’t know what to say back, try…. “Ohhhh, tell me more!”
It’s always going to get a good reaction sending him various naked / bra and panties photos. That will always get him going. You can take those photos ahead of time by the way.
Reader: It’s a start :) I started yesterday with a cleavage shot, timed about 2 minutes before he checked his phone for the last time before arriving at work…. he nearly crashed his car as he put it ;) I made a few comments throughout the day, and a few more on his way home, and he was a very happy hubby last night. Quite effective.
I’ve been reading through all the blog posts the last few days, and getting a lot of good ideas. Hubby started reading the book about a year or so ago, and has been sharing tidbits with me from the book and the blog. I’m trying to implement a lot more of that, and finally took the time to start poking around on the site more. I’m hooked now ;) No one ever told me this stuff growing up, and now I’m wondering how young is too young to start making sure that my boys are well prepared for marriage, instead of having to stumble through the first few years like blind men.
We’re still working towards better communication in the bedroom, mostly because I just get flustered talking about it to him, because I don’t want to use graphic or even natural terms. Hmmm, I think I need a mind reader…. Anyway, it’s getting there, just trying to get ideas of how to implement it without going overboard or making him consider committing me
Athol: It’s okay to be shy
Write out some things you would like to try or do. He can do the same thing. Then switch pieces of paper. If something shows up on both pieces of paper… try that! If something shows up on just one, and the other person doesn’t go… eeeeewwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!! Try that after the others. Remember that only 30% of what you try works for you. So laugh about the failures and love the ones that work.
There’s a couple things that Jennifer was just “meh” about, or even, “Do what?!” about at first. Now she quite likes them. Not because it turns her on wildly, but because she really enjoys me being turned on wildly.
If he’s been reading MMSL for a year, it’s because he really likes you, loves you and wants you. Consider for a moment that you, might be his “kink.” If so, there’s nothing much he won’t be excited to try with you.
Keep me posted! Though if your husband crashes the car because of my advice, I’m not buying you guys a new one. Just sayin’.
Jennifer: That’s right about getting to like something because Athol likes it. I can haz sexual powah? Oh and pick a dirty word you don’t mind being called in bed and tell him about it.