I got asked a question recently that started along the lines of, “If a forty-year-old woman is a 9 and…”
…and let me stop you right there. There are no forty-year-old-women that are Sex Rank 9. Not a one. Nope not even her, or her, or whoever you think of. Just stop trying.
Now I will agree that that relative to other forty-year-old women, there are some women that are clearly vastly more attractive than other forty-year-old women. They look really good for forty. Heck I even know a lady in her early fifties that can still wear a bikini and look good in it. But it’s that they look great for forty. She looks amazing for fifty. It’s all relative Sex Rank and not true Sex Rank.
Confusning the difference between relative Sex Rank and true Sex Rank is something women love to do, because it’s clearly in their interest to do so. But it’s a little like confusing a gold medal from the Special Olympics with one from the actual Olympics. It’s not a level playing field we’re talking about. Yes indeed you may be amazing for a 44-year-old mom, but lets be honest, your 19-year-old daughter just buries you with her hotness. No objective observer is going to be confused over which is hotter.
Deep down of course, everyone knows the truth, younger women are hotter than older women. This is why Demi Moore looked utterly amazing for her age and she still got taken to the curb. Seriously, why was anyone surprised by this? Oh Ashton Kutcher you bad bad bad bad attractive man you.
Look don’t get me wrong, being a MILF is great. It’s vastly better than being an unfuckable, over tanned, wrinkled, used up whore who looks and acts like she’s auditioning for the role of cockblock lady at the DMV. You can have a really good time with a MILF. The’re fun and good in bed and all kinds of good stuff. Jennifer’s a MILF. She’s good in bed and worth talking to before and after sex. She does stuff… you know, like a grown up.
So lets talk about true Sex Rank, which is the only kind that really matters when push comes to shove.
Women in that 20-24 range are just amazingly hot. This is the hottest a women is going to be her whole life. Unsurprisingly, this is when she is most fertile, most likely to cheat and most likely to get a divorce. As she ages further, even if she keeps up a good beauty regime her looks will slowly ebb away. Women can add a ton of Beta skills to compensate and maintain overall relationship value, but this is still just a compensation.
For men, much of their personal attractiveness stems from their power, and young men aren’t powerful save the physical aspect. So a tiny handful of young men get to ride on the sexual wave of physical power, but most young men remain sexually frustrated to at least some degree. However as men age they gain more and more real world power and they probably peak in the 25-29 age range of the composite between raw physical ability, actual power and potential future power. If a man keeps it all together as he ages, and continues to build his powerbase, he can maintain his high Sex Rank even into his fifties commonly.
This is why a forty-year-old man divorcing has a reasonable hope of finding a new woman in the 25-40 age range and a forty-year-old woman divorcing is going to have a reasonable hope of finding a new man in the 40-55 age range. Sex Rank is cruel to young men and older women.
So what does this mean for a man running the MAP on a wife that is holding out on sex?
Very simply put, it’s enormously powerful to have your wife become aware of the fact that a younger woman expressed sexual interest in you. That cuts right through the nonsense of a fantasy Sex Rank and puts the actual Sex Ranks into play in her head. If your wife is walking around thinking that she is still a 9 because she was a 9 twenty years ago, nothing kicks that thought to the curb faster and harder than having a woman 10-20 years younger than her, express interest in you.
Look I know it’s a dark tactic to use, but it works. You can’t fake it otherwise she’ll know and despise you for it, but if it’s real, it works. You don’t need to rub her nose in it, just have her become aware of it and let her hamster do the work for you. She can’t suddenly turn 22 again… but she can turn into a MILF. Which is after all, what 99% of the husbands reading MMSL actually want.
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