A friend of mine has spent a year dropping from 275 lbs to 220 lbs. He didn’t announce it to anyone, he just did it. No one said much until he got to 255 lb. Not much really changed until 235 lbs. By 220 lbs though, a lot of things had suddenly started kicking in for the better. The no brainer is that his wife liked it and things are much better in the bedroom.
However he said he was almost more impressed by the reaction of other men responding to him better. Everyone treating him better at work, sales up, yada yada yada.
Once you have muscle tone and basic bulk, you turn into something far more physically dominating… just by standing there. You don’t actually have to push people around or anything, your ass kicking potential is simply self-evident. On a deep primal level, other men assess that and unconsciously submit to you. Remembering of course that unconscious social submission can as simple as being the guy that stands off to one side to let the other guy come through in a crowded room.
If other men defer to you, that makes you the Alpha Male of the Group. Which makes you get all the women of the group hot and bothered to at least some degree.
If not physical power, you have to find some kind of power for yourself. Women never think a powerful man is creepy. The may think he’s sleazy and untrustworthy, but never creepy. That being said, physical power is within the reach of every guy to at least some degree. So why not?