Don’t Forget Where You Put Your Supersuit

We may not have powers, but we all have personal power. Don’t forget where you put it.

The use of tissues is typically an ineffective tactic.

Some days ain’t nobody going to save you but you.


  1. Love that movie — best movie about family values and family issues ever.

    And you’re right — we may not have “powers”, but each of us have gender-based resources so canny that they can be mistaken for superpowers. “Women’s intuition” is a famous one, but so is many men’s ability to repair just about anything with a screwdriver and a piece of gum. We should not ignore our gender-based powers, up to and including our sexuality and ability to present ourselves.

    I’ll refrain to speaking of the power of women — that’s pretty obvious and well-studied elsewhere. But men have the inherent masculine abilities to Order, to Compete, to Know, and to Feel in various combinations and degrees. What we don’t often realize is that these “powers” can be developed and grown over time. We can get smarter (or at least less-ignorant), we can become more competitive, we can learn to express and control our emotions, and we can learn how to order and organize our universe. A proper balance of these “powers” is what leads to the “superdad/superhusband”.

    But it doesn’t hurt to have a Supersuit. Just don’t let your wife know where you keep it. And yes, that’s a serious metaphor disguised as a joke.

  2. Trimegistus says:

    It occurs to me that nearly all the reviews and critical discussions of The Incredibles are completely blinded by the Blue Pill. Consider: at the beginning of the film Bob Parr’s marriage is in trouble, he’s unhappy and out of shape, his wife is becoming a nag despite herself, and his kids don’t respect him. The conventional wisdom (=Blue Pill) is that the events of the film help Bob reconnect with his family and appreciate how much they mean to him, which resolves the problems.
    This is complete bullshit.
    Look at what actually happens. Bob Alphas Up. He gets back in robot-crushing shape. He gets (what looks like) a higher-status, higher-earning job. He’s drawing attention from younger, hotter women than his wife.
    Sure, it’s all the villain’s sinister scheme to trap him, but it’s also a perfect, textbook example of Game in action. Bob’s (perceived) Market Value goes way up . . . and his wife is suddenly nagging him less, flirting with him more, his kids are showing him more respect. Heck, even the villain’s henchwoman who was pretending to be attracted to him suddenly starts feeling genuine attraction because Bob’s Incredible power and genuine manliness makes her boss’s imitation superpowers and petulant wannabe nature unappealing.
    Sure, Bob SAYS he’s learned to value his family . . . but look at what the characters actually DO. The animators unconsciously showed us how Married Man Game should work even as their dialog was pure hamster spin.

  3. FlyingDutchman says:

    I notice this same element in a lot of movies. The blue pill is offered as the answer by the end of the movie, but all of the attraction dynamics that go on in the story are red pill. We want the blue pill answer, “Happily Ever After”, but what draws the attention, the audience, and the attraction is all the red pill interactions.

    Its easy to see once you are “aware” of the red pill. Even the recent Disney Movie “Tangled” is loaded with it. Love this movie! Even though it has the whole Princess Fairly Tale stuff going on for the kids, the whole relationship dynamic between Rapunzel and Flynn Rider is “red pill” all the way. He is an Alpha Bad Boy (sure he’s really a good guy down deep somewhere, but its all his bad boy antics that draw the attraction). He’s got the cocky funny thing going. Has the swagger and charm. She is emotionally all over the place, while he just ignores her emotions and continues on the quest fighting bad guys and being hunted by the law. She falls for him of course.

    Now imagine, that Disney tried to put the “blue pill” hero in there instead of Flynn Rider, the guy we all were taught to be growing up. He would be a gentleman, he wouldn’t be in trouble with the law, he certainly wouldn’t be cocky, he would open the door for her and take her on a nice safe carriage ride while he told her how pretty she was and he would really like to start dating her”. And Rapunzel could be overweight and homely looking, but just have a great personality. And the movie would have been the biggest Disney flop of all time.

    The “Red Pill” is so obvious, and yet so hard for most of us to really figure out.

  4. Ian says: “But it doesn’t hurt to have a Supersuit. Just don’t let your wife know where you keep it. And yes, that’s a serious metaphor disguised as a joke.”

    Too serious for me to understand. Would you mind enlightening me as to what this means as I am so dense.

  5. Jaad: I mean that if your wife understands the roots of your masculine power (your “supersuit”) well enough then she will feel compelled to control that power if she feels she has that capability. I’ve been with Mrs. I for 20 years, but there are still things she doesn’t know about me, things I draw power from. As much as I love my wife, as much as she and my family are the focus of my being, I understand that my success or failure in protecting and encouraging that stems from my own sense of masculine power, else there would be no foundation upon which to build a relationship or a family.

    Women, bless their hearts, have a deep-seated need to control the powerful forces around them, especially powers that have the ability to hurt them or harm their situation. If she sees your close relationship with your brothers to be a threat to her relationship (or at least how she wants the relationship to run) even if it is also the source of your sense of order and support, then she’s discovered your “supersuit” . . . and she will hide it. And then she will get bored with your non-super ass.

    Of course, once you understand what your own masculine “supersuit” is, you can demand it be off-limits to her attempts to include or control. For example, if you rejuvenate your sense of masculinity through an annual fishing trip, she will try to invite herself along. Not because she loves fishing, but because she senses that’s where you get your power and she wants to go investigate and fuck up everyone else’s good time. She has the best of intentions — sometimes — but she still ends up hiding your supersuit. So you take a stand at the beginning of the relationship: “Those two weeks in August are sacrosanct. I won’t even go to a funeral unless it’s a close relative if it means I miss that trip. And no, you are not invited. Men only.”

    Believe it or not, the more “mysterious” your “supersuit” is, the more intrigued by it she will be. And the moment she figures it out and sees the wires and the built-in muscles . . . she’s going to start looking for someone a little more “super”.

  6. This is one of our favorite movies… One of the only that includes an intact family and a competent father figure. Now that I see the red pill in it, it’s even better!

  7. @Ian
    How do you keep your powers secret if you are blogging about them, is she not in on the blog?

  8. @Sis – Ian is good enough that he can rub her nose in it a little and it only makes her like it more.

    Or more kindly put. His wife is sapiosexual enough that writing about it is a decent piece of his Game. Works the same way for Jennifer too.

  9. Actually, the sad fact of the matter is Mrs. I only reads about 1% of what I write, and then usually only if I push it under her nose and stand over her until she’s finished — it’s not a lack of interest, as much as a lack of time resources. She has friends who read me more regularly and who let her know if I come too close to any lines.

    But then she’s also long-accepted the fact that there are areas of my life where she mustn’t intrude, lest she disturb my balance and mess up my Captaincy. The same for her — there are areas of her life that are off-limits to my review or interference. In a less-secure couple that might invite hanky-panky — indeed, that’s usually a wife’s rationale for breaking up poker games, fishing trips, videogame marathons, or other periods where her husband is off her radar: because they don’t understand the nature of masculinity and the need for its Mysteries (while they steadfastly protect the female Mysteries). They mistakenly believe that if they hide (“protect”) his supersuit, then he won’t use it for evil behind her back. And they don’t realize that by “protecting” his supersuit and not giving him the space to “be super”, they are making their husbands less attractive to them.

    Thankfully, Mrs. Ironwood knows better than to try to hide my supersuit. She’s seen what it can do when it is unleashed, and she appreciates my wisdom in using it. She isn’t always happy with the result, but she’s constantly intrigued and entertained. She also understands that it’s an essential part of my Game with her, so why would she want to mess with that?

    Besides, I spend enough time reminding her that she’s Elastagirl that she really doesn’t have time to worry about what super things I’m doing in my off-time.

  10. reminding her that she’s Elastagirl


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