So following on from yesterday, the whole four quadrant thing is in my mind because I’ve been reorganizing my day. The adjustment from full time nursing and doing MMSL at night, to being at home and just MMSL has been a much bigger adjustment than I thought it would be. I easily get distracted and was finding that I simply wasn’t getting done what I really needed to get done. Oh I was certainly busy and active, just at the end of the day somehow exercise and book writing wasn’t happening.
I also cannot for the life of me write blog posts in the morning. 2.5 years of writing posts at night has basically programmed me to write posts that time of day. I just stare at the screen and eventually watch hours of YouTube if I try post writing during the day. But I was just leeching later and later into the evening. Jennifer edits my posts, so if I’m up, she’s up and then she’s over-tired and slightly… ah… starfishy… which is really my fault for keeping her up.
I’m also trying to rebalance between Jennifer and myself, who does what for chores and domestic duties. We’ve actually been mildly fighting about it in that she’s too stubborn to give some of it up. She’s all overhelping and needs to relax a little more. I’m technically a SAHD now, so there’s different ways I can help out now. Jennifer had been doing the morning routine with the girls once school started up again and wasn’t getting out of the house until 830-9am.
So anyway, my new daily plan for the week days. I’ll color all the Quadrant Two items in Red.
D1 = Eldest daughter. D2 = Youngest daughter. Also I set a number of alarms on my phone to prompt myself to start/stop things.
6am Get up, wake D1 and shower. (Alarm set)
620am prompt D1 and wake D2. Coffee, empty dishwasher, make lunches for D2 and Jennifer (she gets leftovers from dinner the night before), make protein shake.
640am Email clear / Forum check
7am D1 on bus. Prompt D2.
705 Start any laundry, eat breakfast and 30 minute walk.
750 am Drive D2 to school
810am One housecleaning task.
830am-12pm Writing book related material (Alarm set)
12pm-1pm Exercise (Alarm set)
1pm Shower, Lunch, playtime.
235pm Pick up D2 from school. (ALARM SET!)
3-5pm Clear email, forum check, 30 minute walk (with Jennifer if possible)
5-8 pm Free + Dinner
8pm Homework Prompting (Alarm set)
8-10pm MMSL Post writing, any remaining time on forum.
930pm Bedtime Prompting for Kids
10pm Kids to bed (Alarm set)
10-11pm Free Time to hang out with Jennifer
11pm Run Dishwasher, Bedtime
So, all in all, I’ve gone from about two regular hours of Quadrant Two a day, to around eight and a half. The house is about the same in terms of how clean as we weren’t living in squalor before, but the kitchen kinda sparkles now. Jennifer is getting to work earlier and getting home a little earlier and isn’t falling asleep on the couch late in the evening. The kids hear the 8pm alarm and they already have learned to just groan and get their homework. Same deal at bedtime.
The only downside is I’m on the forum a little less continuously, so I adapted there and created a 911 category for the issues that need genuine triage and get first dibs on my attention.
About 90% of my Alpha is coming from my Quadrant Two time spending. Physical health and fitness, smart guy generating income. That’s my attraction builder. All the help around the house + kids + Jennifer time is my comfort building Beta stuff.
So go plan your day.
Jennifer: It’s been an adjustment on my end too, but it’s working wonderfully. He looks happier for getting more book writing done and it’s so nice not starting my day in a rush and have more time together in the evening. It’s infectious too, I’ve found myself planning meals further ahead and prepping things in the morning. (Although I did just say to him that he’s thrown my whole sense of time off in the evening…It’s 9:18pm and I’m proofing something I am usually proofing at 11:18pm…now I feel like it should be bedtime.)
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