Why Crazy Bitches Are So Good In Bed

So why are crazy bitches so hot in bed?

The probably surprising answer to most long term readers, is that crazy bitches don’t have much of a Rationalization Hamster, and that’s why they’re so hot in bed.

Confused? Let me explain…

The bits and pieces powering your sex drive, are all based in your Body Agenda. More particularly it’s based in the Limbic System which you have no conscious control over. Your Body Agenda is essentially always on, and has a fairly minimal moral compass beyond trying to ensure it’s immediate social group survives and thrives. The more thoughtful morality center is based in the more rational thinking part of the brain – the Neo-Cortex. Depending on your upbringing we all have an internal monologue voiced by some combination of Christopher Hitchens and Church Lady. (Shame on you and isn’t that special.)

So in reality, the majority of the time, the Rationalization Hamster is actually thinking up reasons to not follow our baser instincts, and thus be well behaved. So when you find out some guy has been putting the moves on your girl, it’s actually your Rationalization Hamster overriding your Body Agenda and telling you to be cool and not get into a physical dust up. That’s how you get either seriously injured or jailed, be cool dude, be cool. On a biological level though, you just want to fuck him up.

For women, the overwhelming majority of the time, their Rationalization Hamster is absolutely telling them to play it cool. Don’t be slutty, don’t have a high partner count, don’t be a stripper, don’t appear in porn, don’t wear too revealing clothing, don’t drink that, don’t drive too fast, don’t color outside the lines, be on time, be nice, smile at everyone, be home by 10, don’t fart until after you’re married.

What happens for the more naturally Beta women, is that by over-thinking things, and having too strong of a Rationalization Hamster, they can actually inhibit their sex drive and sexual performance. Don’t show outwardly that you have sexual impulses, play it safe, don’t make too much noise, orgasming too well makes you look slutty, don’t have too many moves, nice girls don’t do that, you whore that’s where poop comes out.

Crazy chicks though, simply can’t muster up the mental rigor to act as any sort of inhibition on their sex drive. If the Neo-Cortex is all whack-a-do, or periodically just switches completely off, instead of some sense of control over her sex drive, you get full force Body Agenda at work. Deep down all women love sex, but with crazy bitches there is no “deep down”, it’s all up on the surface, laid bare for all to see. Body Agenda is a fickle friend and it’s moods and interests run hot and cold from moment to moment. This is why crazy bitches are suddenly hot to trot and then absolutely not trotting anywhere but out the door.

Now when mentally normal women end up having sex, or seeking to avoid sex, their Neo-Cortex is engaged and they will come up with reasons to justify their actions. He’s my husband, we’re engaged now, I met his mother so he’s actually serious about me, if I don’t put out now I’m going to lose this really great guy. Thus when a non-crazy woman decides to cheat on her husband who is a great guy and nice to her and the kids, the rationalizations required to undo all her prior thoughts of morality and justify doing something evil, take quite a lot of mental effort. There’s almost a personality de-programming that takes place as she unpicks all the old rationalizations to be a good girl, and replaces them with ones that say cheating on her husband is okay for her in this particular circumstance. Men do the exact same things too. The Body Agenda wants to bang someone inappropriate and leans all over the Neo-Cortex to agree. Eventually the Neo-Cortex finds some BS way of agreeing with the Body Agenda. Along with the dopamine effect from exposure to the lover, this is why people in the middle of affairs have an almost total personality change.

That unpicking of the old morality codes is one of the reasons that previously “mild housewives” turn into “raging cockwhores” during an affair. The “be a good girl” rules are all intertwined with one another, once one breaks, most of them will shatter too. Pretty much any woman that’s had an affair is going to be potentially more open to much wilder sexual activity in the aftermath. It all depends on if she was caught and if so, how the morality restructuring went afterwards. Typically though, once a cheater, always a cheater… unless you can point to a very clear rebuilding of commitment and an acute sense of having done wrong.

If you want the perfect setting for the Rationalization Hamster for a Red Pill woman, it’s pretty easy to figure out. Everything and anything goes sexually inside the relationship, nothing goes outside the relationship. You can get to that setting starting from either the slutty side of the equation, or from the good girl side of the equation. But it’s not an easy or overnight route for either one though. That’s why I’ve done posts encouraging the good girls adding some bitch.

Crazy bitches though can’t ever really reform because they can’t keep a thought together for more than two seconds. They just live in a sort of endless “Running of the Bulls…”

…starring as the bull.

 

Comments

  1. Sounds like these “good girls” should add more slut, not more bitch. Adding slut = increased sexual availability (to her husband) Adding bitch = less feminine virtue, which isn’t good for anyone.

  2. But it’s not an easy or overnight route for either one though.

    I wonder if this is where the idea of women hitting their sexual peak at 35 comes from. It’s easier to release the slut the longer one is married and the trust grows in the relationship. She realizes that her husbands likes the inner slut and she wants to do that more for him and for herself. But that letting go, it’s not easy.

  3. @Stingray

    Perhaps…but then all of that time gets super compressed for the infamous 5 minutes of alpha. If hubby could theoretically run the MAP and raise his sex rank by a 1-3 points relative to hers, I think the inner crazy bitch would find a much faster way to come out. Cue competition anxiety + genuine desire.

  4. Anyone who read this went through a list of crazy bitches we all know and nodded along.

  5. It’s amazing watching it in action. I’ve seen my wife and others out and out try to destroy a marriage and family over sex. Eventually, reality sets in and the red pill sucks. I almost lost my wife to another guy and her rationalization hamster was going full speed. Luckily I caught it before anything physical happened. We really are just animals sometimes!

  6. All I have to say to this post is: Yup.

  7. Brilliant analysis, Athol. You’ve clobbered it.

    With the caveat that there are different kinds of crazy bitches (although, as Mrs. I says, “All dem bitches be crazy”) the wild sex is often the hook that gets you in their web. I stayed with a woman in college for a full year and a half after the relationship should have naturally expired because when things got rough between us she’d mystify me with a couple of days of crazy sex and I’d be a puppy again — pure Blue Bill Beta.

    I got over it.

    It can be hard to walk away from the crazy sex. When confronted with a choice between “nice girl” and “crazy bitch with crazy sex”, you sometimes have to ramp up your own Hamster to convince your body that Crazy Bitch is bad for you (when it feels so good) and Nice Girl is good for you (when her erotic capacities are unknown or speculated upon). Sure, Nice Girl might make a great mom and wife on paper…but if the trade-off is never getting freaky in a parking lot, movie theater bathroom, or the attendant’s booth at a county landfill (I’ve had an interesting life) again in your life, then her appeal suffers.

    So how does a Nice Girl get over that obstacle in a decent dude’s mind? I’m sure all of you have witnessed a perfectly good dude who was in a perfectly wretched relationship with a Crazy Bitch, a dude who was getting wildly fucked between bouts of dysfunction. You’ve shaken your head sadly at the waste, and wondered why he wasted himself that way, when Amy is a perfectly respectable woman who would make an awesome match for him. Crazy Bitch pussy can’t be THAT good, can it?

    Um, yeah. Yeah, it can. A pretty Crazy Bitch, or even a decent-looking one who’s very sexually aggressive and available, can lead a guy through the labyrinth of her psychosis by his dick, and he won’t see the dangers ahead. The pussy is that good. And the only way you can counter it is with more — and theoretically better — pussy. Guys are just like that.

    So the Nice Girl’s best weapon is to be Speculatively Kinky and Selectively Easy. That runs counter to the Nice Girl meme, but the two are not incompatible. The key is to make it clear to a dude, in polite but not uncertain terms, that you have every intention of becoming the biggest freak in the world once you’re safely settled down. Don’t be afraid to speculate on the depravities you may eventually indulge in — with your fiance/husband. That at least lets the dude know that Nice Girl doesn’t mean Born Again Virgin and Anti-Sex Crusader. The risk in a guy’s mind when seeing the temptations of the Nice Girl is that once she’s become a wife and mother that the good pussy will become an occasional or absent thing. That’s a very real concern — I know plenty of dudes who took the plunge and got married to good, Church-going girls only to discover that good Church-going girls, if they’re serious about Church, have a very hard time dealing with sexuality even after they’re wed. Nice Girl is a pig in a poke, a box of chocolates: you never quite know what you’re going to get until after you’ve bought it.

    That’s where being Selectively Easy comes in. That was Mrs. Ironwood’s operating parameter when she met me. She’d had only a few boyfriends, one eight-month live-in douchebag she dumped right before we met, and she’d finalized most of her List Of Most Desirable Characteristics In A Boyfriend/Husband/Future Father Of My Children. When I made the initial cut (it took about a week or so), and I had demonstrated enough High Value, and she had thoroughly checked out my background through the Female Social Matrix, she took the plunge. And kept on plunging.

    Once she made the decision that I had serious potential and I wasn’t going anywhere, she boned me rotten. A lot. In as many creative ways as she could. She made the selection, made her decision, and then did her level best to demonstrate to me that a) she was not a Crazy Bitch, no, really and b) a Nice Girl can do anything in bed a Crazy Bitch can do, and she can do it as often and without the therapy sessions afterward. There were a few Crazy Bitches lingering around from my past, girls I’d flirted with but who had waited for me to be single again, and every time we encountered one the future Mrs. Ironwood would politely make the point that I was Taken, and then followed it up within the next 24 hours with generous applications of high-quality Nice Girl pussy. Hell, sometimes she got to it within the hour — yea, Preselection!

    Further, once we did proceed with a commitment beyond casual dating or even boyfriend/girlfriend, she made good on all the Speculative Kinkiness she’d tempted me with. Of course, in keeping with Athol’s 70/30% rule, most of the kinkiness was ultimately dropped from our repertoire, but the journey was a hell of a time. And she doled it out slowly enough over the years to ensure I was always interested.

    There’s an art to Nice Girl game, and it gets harder when you add in religion. But the cold, hard fact is that the allure of Crazy Bitch is powerful, as the Dark Side always is, and even a good man can fall prey to the temptation of hot, crazy sex for an indefinite period of time. If what you can offer him starts and stops at a decent job and good maternal instincts, and he has no real idea about your potential for a robust sexuality, then Crazy Bitch pussy is going to win out, even if he does marry you. You have to market yourself and your sexuality, which runs counter to 40 years of feminist doctrine and 2000 years of Christian doctrine. Perhaps you have to bring your Hamster in on it to get it done, but I’ve seen plenty of decent women get dropped or passed over by decent dudes because they weren’t giving him either the steak or the sizzle.

    A man’s gotta eat…

  8. @Ian Ironwood:

    ” There were a few Crazy Bitches lingering around from my past, girls I’d flirted with but who had waited for me to be single again,”

    How crazy could they be if they were willing to wait for you to be single again? (-:

  9. Trimegistus says:

    Just my luck. Back in college I hooked up with a crazy bitch, but I guess she was the wrong kind of crazy bitch because the sex wasn’t particularly exciting. Maybe if I’d known more about Game back then it would have been different, but as it was she was just crazy, bitchy, and ultimately more of a bother than anything else.

  10. As a Beta and cuckold I’d point out too that it’s not just because we guys “like hot sex.” We (unconsciously?) interpret her desire and satisfaction as indicators of fidelity — correctly in my experience. I no longer trust “trust, good communication” and all that Blue Pill shit, because the hamster can chew through years of it in an hour of isolation. I trust PASSION. If she’s not sending me dirty texts, saying that her loins ache for me, getting dripping wet, having loud, moaning orgasms, saying she likes the taste of my cum, etc., I just assume she’s doing all the above for another guy, or will be soon. Expressions of non-sexual love are nice but give me no assurance of fidelity. I’ve been on the “inside” and the “outside” of female sexuality and know the difference.

  11. @Ian Ironwood
    I really like this post and consider it on point. I’m not sure you position on Susan Walsh take on relationships but we had been discussing the disconnect between nice girls and nice guys that don’t seen to find each other for a few months now in her blog. Care to join in the conversation at HUS and add this gold of post there? The address is http://www.hookingsmart.com. I don’t think Athol mind she is in his blogroll but Athol if you do feel free to erase it.

  12. Off The Grid says:

    Amen to everything above. I would recommend every man date at least one bipolar woman before they get married. When you find the woman that can match the sexual excitement of a crazy woman, but have all the class, intelligence, beauty, and sanity you are looking for in your wife then you will know you found the right one.

  13. Alpha Mission: Sounds like these “good girls” should add more slut, not more bitch. Adding slut = increased sexual availability (to her husband) Adding bitch = less feminine virtue, which isn’t good for anyone.

    Totally agree.

  14. Joe_Commenter says:

    Alpha Mission and CL: You are so right. Slutty = sexy. Bitchy = pain in the ass.

    And for all of the female readers: There is a big difference between a strong woman and a bitch. Men are not afraid of strong women. But Men do detest bitches. Learn the difference.

  15. Boy, do I recognize this post.
    So, would a corollary to this be: the hotter the sex early on, the crazier she is?

  16. How’s that song go now… “we want a lady on the street but a freak in the bed.” I’ld like to add the following refrain, “she wants a gentleman on the street and a freak in her bed” :)

  17. Arminius says:

    There’s a lot of truth to what some of you expressed here. As a guy, all I can say is:
    “Be careful!” But also: “Enjoy it, while it lasts!” :))) You will remember the hot stuff
    forever. And in their later years, most guys won’t have much to enjoy, because
    women at ages past menopause will often say: “At my age, I don’t have to do this
    anymore!” :(((

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