A mutual breakup announcement helps everyone save face.
From the forum…
Female Reader: Do you find yourself doing the same thing. Every. Single. Day.
I am in a situation where our lives are very, very busy – doing the same things over and over. I can go weeks without having to go beyond a 5 mile radius of my house. We do the same things. In the same places. With all the same people. Even my work, which I love, is starting to feel stale.
Now granted it is not literally the same thing. But I find my brain is often on auto pilot…
(Athol: I removed about 1000 words here…)
…Not sure what I am looking for here. I guess I just wanted to see if anyone can relate.
RedPillWifey: I think it’s possible to be a little bored with being a SAHM without it being a huge 911 issue. Some days it’s just a monotonous grind of diapers, baby food, and tears. It’s just something you have to muck through for a while… The feeling comes and goes. Never have I had the thought to go to a bar to get picked up (unless it was my husband). I’m a tad jealous that he basically has his Dream Job right now, and loves going to work, but he does his best to keep my life interesting. I try to speak up when I need something.
Nothing wrong with feeling a little bored, IMO.
Athol: Reducing Female Reader’s entire comment to a single thought it’s something like, “This is all a bit boring and I want some Alpha in my life”. While RedPillWifey sums to, “This is all a bit boring, but I have some Alpha in my life.”
The key phrases to trigger a red flag vs. green flag response are, “Not sure what I am looking for here. I guess I just wanted to see if anyone can relate.” vs. “he does his best to keep my life interesting. I try to speak up when I need something.”
I think what most men don’t understand is that being at home is often vastly understimulating to a normal adult. I mean really, it’s nothing like the effort needed in 1913 to keep house in 2013. So when he comes home, the lower stress environment is experienced by him as relaxing, and he wonders what is so unenjoyable about it all to his wife.
Meanwhile, she’s bored senseless. It never starts off as bars and Girls Night Out shenanigans though. Facebook and flirting is where it’s at. It can creep up on you so slowly though. No one plans to have an affair, or get disgusted with their husband and fall out of love. It just slowly drifts away….
That’s why I keep coming back to needing to be a SAHM plus something. I don’t care what the something is, just something. Any kind of additional productive stimulation beats sitting on the couch watching TV.
But it’s also why husbands need to be the Captain. SAHM’s eat up a Firm, Fair and Frisky husband with a spoon. If a SAHM has been sufficiently bored to the point where the mailman arriving is an event, the arrival of her husband is a much bigger event to look forward too. If he can fight the natural inclination to walk through the door and go completely off-duty, there’s a lot to be said for allowing her ten minutes of undivided attention to disgorge her daily report.
After that, do whatever… just remember to play with her during the evening. Light teasing, a little groping… anything is better than ignoring each other.
Jennifer: No matter what you’re doing, if it’s the same old thing every day you look to your partner for a little stimulation…and hopefully they provide it. (And yes, I’m looking over my shoulder to see Athol with his “I’ll stimulate you, baby…” face on.)
If case you have any doubts that everything really is my mother’s fault for how I turned out…
…these are the sort of links she sends me.
Reader: So this is going to sound like more first world sex problems, so if you don’t want to hear about it stop reading now.
Things continue to be amazing. We have had a truly epic ovulation week. We have had sex everyday for at least 8 or 9 days sometimes multiple times per day. Mrs. D has been very affectionate, flirty, horny and up for pretty much anything. I’m not going to go into all the details but suffice to say I am very satisfied.
So what is the problem? Well last night I couldn’t get it up. Actually I was able to get it up with some work, but then the baby started crying and that killed it. I just gave the Mrs. some oral and called it a night.
I’m 33 years old, I’ve experienced alcohol and drug induced ED, but this is the first time I’ve ever just not been able to get it done while being stone cold sober. Possible contributing factors that I can think of are; all that sex from the week leading up to last night including the attendant lack of sleep, a BJ to completion yesterday morning, being tired from Krav Maga class yesterday evening.
Is this just something that happens sometimes when you have this much sex? Or is it something that I should look into? I feel like Im too young to go on ED meds, and I don’t want this getting into my head and causing further problems. Any tips?
Athol: Maybe the tale of Sooty the Guinea Pig will make you feel better…
A guinea pig called Sooty had a night to remember after escaping from his pen and tunnelling into a cage of 24 females.
He romanced each of them in turn and was yesterday the proud father of 43 offspring. Staff at Little Friend’s Farm in Pontypridd, South Wales, have now secured Sooty’s pen – and begun looking for homes for the guinea pigs. Owner Carol Feehan, 42, said: “I’m sure a lot of men will be looking at Sooty with envy.
“We knew that he had gone missing after wriggling through the bars of his cage. We looked for him everywhere but never thought of checking the pen where we keep 24 females. We did a head count and found 25 guinea pigs – Sooty was fast asleep in the corner. He was absolutely shattered. We put him back in his cage and he slept for two days.”
Anyway… It’s totally normal at that level of sexual activity to hit the wall where enough is enough.
Basically the more cum inside you waiting to come out, the hornier you are and the faster you get aroused. So after 8-9 days of endless sex… you’re basically “pulling so many buckets of water out of the well, the well is starting to run dry.”
Also after you orgasm, your dopamine drops and your prolactin level rises, and that’s a factor in shutting down your interest levels too. Basically as far as your body is concerned, you’ve blown a ton of cum into her, so she’s well and truly full of your cum, so you can take a nap now.
Anyway… relax, nothing to see here. All completely normal. Have a protein shake and keep your fluids up. Let your body recover a little.
That’s about it. You’re fine.