What Are Your Best Books And Resources?

Time to expand my reading a little. What are your favorite books and/or resources over these six broad categories?

(1)  Physical Fitness, Food and Health.

(2) Money and Material Possessions.

(3)  Alpha Goodness and Attraction.

(4)  Beta Goodness and Comfort Building.

(5)  Personality and Peak Performance / Success.

(6)  Sex Life and Bedroom Fun.

Comments

  1. A Man For All Seasons says:

    I will put in a plug here for the very first thing that turned me on to the red pill. It is a product/package called Marriage Savior. It is one of those deals where you click on some link, and they give you a video spiel about 10 minutes long, and they charged $197, which obviously is a lot. However, their promo material points out that most men are lacking the ability to create attraction in their wives. I had already come to this understanding, and I was in a bad way, so I bought it and downloaded the PDFs. It consists of 5 or 6 pdfs, plus some work sheets and other stuff. A typical package self help system.

    I have now read probably 25 books on game (including the primer, which was number 3 or 4, based on when I learned of it), and I have been reading this site and dozens of other manosphere sites for a year and half since then. The marriage savior system presents some of the best game material I’ve seen, including things I have yet to see anywhere else. He teaches a lot of basic game concepts, that most of us are familiar with by now, but what I really liked the three principles he recommends, leadership, balls, and playful dominance.

    Leadership is similar to the approach taught by the Manhood101 system. You have to not only lead, but your leadership has to deliver good results. This is true both with the wife, and with the kids. A lot of red pill sites have backed this up fairly well, but he has a very good presentation, instead of having to pick up tidbits and put them together over a period of time.

    Balls! This is a huge thing. He example was when he took his wife to Rome, there was a multi hour line to get into St Peter’s cathedral, but he noticed the exit door was open, so he led his wife in through the out door, and nobody said anything, so then they toured the place at their leisure, with no wait. This is ballsy, not in a huge way, but it is ballsy. Someone could have confronted them, or they could have even gotten involved with the authorities in a foreign country, but he went for it, and it paid off. Most people wouldn’t have gone in the out door in a situation like this. You need to make a point to be transgressive sometimes, and have the ability to take risks. I’ve made a point to do some ballsy things since learning this, and it’s very important.

    Finally, playful dominance. He points out that women should be given the room to let their emotions run free, with the man as their rock and anchor. This is well covered in other manosphere sites. However, he says sometimes you need to get your woman off an emotional kick, when the timing is bad, or she’s hamstering down a wrong hole. He basically teaches how to playfully distract her, and turn her emotions in a different, positive direction. It’s common to do this with kids, but it works with women as well. Between the right concepts of leadership, balls, and playful dominance, a beta man in a failing marriage can really turn things around.

    He provides a lot of other good material too. He presents an extremely good explanation of frame, and of course he teaches the need for fitness and good grooming and clothes, the need to pass shit tests, and the need to get over having oneitis and develop some pre-selection and even a little dread, but I thought I’d give a taste of what I found unique in his materials. It’s too bad it’s so expensive. I’d kind of like to see some of his ideas bounced around more on the various red pill sites.

    Ironically, I saw the ad for the package in the bottom corner of the Facebook page of another woman I was hot for (not my wife). I don’t know if or when I would have stumbled onto the red pill, if not for this.

  2. I think that Free Northerner’s list is a really good one. http://freenortherner.wordpress.com/free-mans-reading-list/

    I particularly think that one ought to read the Stoics if one wants to embrace a philosophy of masculinity.

  3. A Man For All Seasons says:

    A couple of others:

    For fitness, “Bigger, Leaner, Stronger, The Simple Science of Building the Ultimate Male Body”. Again, I’ve read a lot of material on lifting since this book, but it has the best lifting program, and the best additional material to explain and encourage. I had been doing P90X before starting to lift heavy, so I wasn’t starting from zero. I’ve doubled my weights on almost every lift since I started this program.

    For sex, I highly recommend “She Comes First”, a very detailed explanation of how to eat pussy. I’ve read that up to 90% of men do this wrong. This book gives techniques, and explains how to recognize when your woman is building up to an orgasm, and how to build up her sensations, and drive her over the top. It works.

    Finally, I’ll throw in something I’ve learned on my own. We all know how important testosterone is, and how to build it naturally with diet and lifting heavy. If these don’t work, then we know it’s time to go get T shots or gels. However, there’s an important factor that’s rarely mentioned. If you are fat, then your fat will turn your newly increased T levels into Estrogen. You don’t want this. High estrogen in men is associated with bad things, like bitch tits, difficulty losing weight, difficulty getting an erection, and difficulty reaching orgasm. Bad things. Most middle aged men have excessive levels of estrogen.

    Arimidex (generic anastrozole) will knock down your estrogen levels fast (you have to learn by feel how to avoid driving them too low, or you can do regular blood work). If your body fat percentage is low, then you’re probably fine, but if you have a lot of excess fat, get some Arimidex asap. In the time I doubled my strength, I had plateaued on weight loss for about a year, in spite of steady low carb dieting. When I started taking the Adex, I immediately lost 15 pounds below my previous best in six weeks, I went from 5 lbs down to 10 lbs down in one week flat, and had to make myself start to eat more. I can feel the benefits in many other ways as well. I’d be willing to say this would be more beneficial than T treatments for many men, as long as they are already good as far as diet and lifting. The benefits of lowering estrogen are discussed on sites like PeakTestosterone.com, so you can easily learn more about it.

  4. For your Money and Material Possessions category I STRONGLY recommend the book “Your Money Or Your Life.” Literally life-changing. My wife and I read it 13 years ago and never looked back. And just last year I wrote up an in-depth, chapter-by-chapter analysis of the book to help others work through the YMOYL process. You can find it here:

    http://casualkitchen.blogspot.com/2012/08/your-money-or-your-life-full-archive.html

  5. I have a suggestion in the Fitness & Training category: The Big Book of Endurance Training and Racing by Phil Maffetone. Despite the title, its more of a comprehensive guide to health and fitness. I’m suggesting this, because nowadays all this high intensity exercise is advocated so much, that it is forgotten that for some portion of people its way too hard and can actually have serious negative health and fitness effects. I’m talking about any kind of hard anaerobic exercise, be it sprinting, P90x, hard weightlifting or whatever. There’s no doubt these are extremely useful, but hard exercise can also cause burnout/overtraining for unaware people. Heck, I overtrained quite a bit even though I considered myself informed, I gained weight, slept badly etc., although doing most things “right”. I was simply lacking basic endurance to recover from my exercises.

    In his book, Phil outlines the effective ways to first build your aerobic endurance to a high level, at which point one is much more ready to do higher intensity exercise. The good news is that aerobic workouts are “easy”, and just a few months can be enough to reap signifigant rewards. Its really safe, and can also bring various health benefits/fat loss as a “side effect”. Valuable part of the book are stories of serious athletes simply burning themselves up with unnecessary hard exercise, and then getting much better results using the “easy” aerobic way. I highly recommend.

  6. Ethelred says:

    Hi Athol. The following works are not necessarily the best possible, but they may be additive to what you already know. They are works I am using now in my life. For myself my marriage is almost busted, with some infidelity on my wife’s part – she is totally emotionally and physically disengaged from me at this point. So in addition to running the MAP and reading the works below I am trying to break my emotional dependence on future outcomes with her by reading stuff like “Getting Past Your Breakup” by Susan Eliott. During the period I am running the MAP and raising my sex rank I am committed to not separating or divorcing my wife in order to give things a last shot, because we have children together. After I feel I have made significant gains I will be at another decision point whether to stay or go down the road. Here’s my list:

    (1) Man 2.0, Engineering the Alpha http://www.amazon.com/Man-2-0-Engineering-Alpha-ebook/dp/B0089LOJYU/ref=tmm_kin_title_0
    (2) How to Manage Your Money When You Don’t Have Any
    http://www.amazon.com/Manage-Your-Money-When-ebook/dp/B007IUGLYO/ref=sr_1_2?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1369914613&sr=1-2&keywords=How+to+manage+your+money
    (3) You have probably already read this, but… Way of the Superior Man
    http://www.amazon.com/The-Way-Superior-Man-ebook/dp/B004A8ZWM4/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1369915073&sr=1-1&keywords=Way+of+the+superior+man
    (4) Don’t have much on beta, but suggest Homecoming http://www.amazon.com/Homecoming-Reclaiming-Healing-Inner-ebook/dp/B00C4BA4I6/ref=sr_1_4?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1369915299&sr=1-4&keywords=homecoming
    (5) Master Your Workday Now http://www.amazon.com/Master-Your-Workday-Now-ebook/dp/B004FN1LSS/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1369915446&sr=1-1&keywords=Master+your+workday+now
    (6) I am not so focused on the bedroom until I get my MAP handled. However you should find this a fun read: Confessions of a Hollywood Tantra Masseur
    http://www.amazon.com/Confessions-Hollywood-Tantra-Masseur-ebook/dp/B00890NTW4/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1369915623&sr=1-1&keywords=Confessions+of+a+Hollywood+tantra

  7. Johnny Caustic says:

    (1)
    Body by Science. John Little and Doug McGuff. (Best book on the endocrinology of high-intensity strength training.)
    Protein Power LifePlan. Drs. Michael and Mary Dan Eades. (Best book on low-carb eating I’ve read so far.)

    (3)
    “Fearless Relentless Escalation” and “Simply Start Sex”. 60 Years of Challenge. (Ebooks only, unfortunately. My favorite books on physical escalation.)
    Blackdragon’s 6 books on dating and open relationships. Blackdragon. (Ebooks only, unfortunately.)

    (6)
    Sex God Method. Daniel Rose. (Ebook only, unfortunately. Excellent book on dominance–not BDSM, just ordinary dominance–in sex.)

    I’m a bit disappointed that this list is mostly ebooks. But the best stuff doesn’t seem to be right for traditional publishers. I’ve read a ton of stuff, both paper books and ebooks, and these are the ones I’m still practicing.

  8. (1) You Are Your Own Gym — Mark Lauren

    (2) Debt: The First 5,000 Years — David Graeber

    (3) Married Man’s Sex Life primer

    (4) Married Man’s Sex Life primer

    (5) So Good They Can’t Ignore You — Cal Newport

    (6) The X-Rated Sex Book: A Lewd Presentation of Sex — William McQueen

    Athol, while we’re on the topic — particularly as it pertains to #’s 3 and 4 above — I’m wondering if you could recommend one or two of Helen Fisher’s books? (I got Anatomy of Love, but it seems a little too, I dunno, basic.)

  9. tigerandplay says:

    for item 2) The Four Pillars of Investing:

    http://www.amazon.com/The-Four-Pillars-Investing-Portfolio/dp/0071747052

    anything by William Berstein is excellent. Mr Money Mustache is the best financial blog out there these days, he’s recommended this book as well. This book covers everything you need to know to invest successfully.

  10. Starting Strength by Mark Rippetoe – a classic and great for lifters of all levels. Everything you need, nothing you don’t.

    Fit for Combat – JD Johannes – a simple and effective program that yields fast progress virtually idiot and lazy proof.

    The Little Black Book of Violence – every man should read this. It’s not about fighting but about what’s worth fighting for and when.

    Poor Richard’s Almanac – Benjamin Franklin – every businessman should read this. Franklin’s life lessons and wit are just as insightful and relevant today. This is a guy you’d want to have a couple of beers with and shoot the breeze about life.

    George Washington’s Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior – George Washington – a short read but a fundamental one if you wish to exhibit gentlemanly behavior.

    The Odyssey – Homer – a must read for all men.

    The Merchant of Venice, Othello – William Shakespeare – ditto.

  11. 1) I second, (or third or fourth) Starting Strength. For health and food stuff I really like Robb Wolf’s Paleo Solution diet (written for the everyman) and Sarah Fragoso’s Everyday Paleo mostly a cook book with tons of great paleo-ish recipe’s. Even though the scope is more than most men need or want, Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Encyclopedia of Modern Bodybuilding is a classic.

    2) The Boglehead’s Guide to Investing/Retirement Planning – great book, great forum. I subscribe to this philosophy for low fee investing.

    5) No Shortcuts to the Top – Ed Viesturs – mostly about climbing, but life lessons on risk and being a man and following your calling despite objections. Mastering your hidden self, Serge King. Always liked too “The Power of Now” – a little new-agey for certain.

    6) It’s been awhile since I’ve read it but I generally thought highly of “Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships” maybe a bit too much blue pill and semi-scientific. Also second the “She Comes First” book for eating pussy.

  12. Discobolus says:

    1. It Starts With Food by Dallas & Melissa Hartwig. This is a Paleo diet book that is the best I’ve ever read. There is also a lot of tough love about cheat days and why you shouldn’t do them.

    2. Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey. This presents a simple stepwise financial plan.

    3. The Underground Dating Seminar by Brad P. This is a yearlong program by PUA Brad P. I was studying his stuff before I met my wife and used a lot of what I learned when we first started dating. She thought I was super take charge because of it.

    4. The 5 Love Languages

    5. No More Mr. Nice Guy
    Wild at Heart
    Way of the Wild Heart
    Boundaries in Marriage

    6. Just Fuck Me by Eve Kingsley. This is available on iTunes. It’s basically about becoming more alpha in the bedroom.

  13. I don’t have a lot of input but Dave Ramsey for Finance. That is how my husband I started our marriage off on the right foot financially. So thankful to have read that one.

  14. http://www.authenticmanprogram.com/igtp/InnerGameStickingPoints.pdf

    Everything by David Deida. The whole forum fasterseduction.com

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  16. Nathan R says:
  17. #2 If you want a quick economics education to give you some basic background for finance, you can’t beat Economics in One Lesson by Henry Hazlitt. It’s a classic published in 1946 but still rings true today. It is also available many places legally free online.

    mises.org/books/economics_in_one_lesson_hazlitt.pdf

  18. Besides those already mentioned….

    The Tao od daily Life by Derrick Lin
    The army field leadership manual
    The Old Man and the Sea, Hemmingway
    and when I want to put my mind in park and need to kill time, Clive Cussler

    We read and help teach Dave Ramsey’s stuff too.

  19. 1. Beyond Brawn by Stuart McRobert.
    2. The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey
    3. The Married Man Sex Life Primer by Athol Kay
    4. Natural Talent, I could probably write a book on this.
    5. No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover
    6. Still haven’t ran through all the ideas I got from decades of porn watching. . . . So I guess redtube.com

  20. Christopher says:

    Another vote for Starting Strength.

  21. SidArthur says:

    Thank you, Athol, for your book for all of the above!
    (1) Physical Fitness, Food and Health. Body For Life, by Bill Phillips http://www.amazon.com/Body-Life-Mental-Physical-Strength/dp/0060193395/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1369950612&sr=8-1&keywords=body+for+life and Solitary Fitness, by Charles Bronson (UK) http://www.amazon.com/Solitary-Fitness-Fancy-Expensive-ebook/dp/B00B3M4CVC/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1369950658&sr=1-1&keywords=solitary+fitness
    (2) Money and Material Possessions. How to Get Out of Debt, Stay Out of Debt, and Live Prosperously, by Jerrold Mundis http://www.amazon.com/Debt-Stay-Live-Prosperously-ebook/dp/B005U3ZVLK/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1369950725&sr=1-1&keywords=how+to+get+out+of+debt+stay+out+of+debt+and+live+prosperously
    (3) Alpha Goodness and Attraction. The Game, by Neil Strauss http://www.amazon.com/The-Game-ebook/dp/B007MAXHUG/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1369950791&sr=1-1&keywords=the+game
    (4) Beta Goodness and Comfort Building. Cockfidence, by Celeste Hirschman and Danielle Harel http://www.celesteanddanielle.com/cockfidence-book/
    (5) Personality and Peak Performance / Success. Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger http://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/0316167266/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1369950972&sr=1-1&keywords=do+what+you+are
    (6) Sex Life and Bedroom Fun. Sex Is Fun!: Creative Ideas for Exciting Sex, by Kidder Kaper http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Fun-Creative-Ideas-Exciting/dp/B0042P56B2/ref=sr_1_4?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1369951038&sr=1-4&keywords=sex+is+fun

  22. 1) The 4-hour Body; Tim Ferris
    2) The Richest Man in Babylon
    The Wealthy Barber (both good basic books on personal finance)
    5) Crucial Conversations (reading this for an upcoming class at work, very good at how to have important, emotional conversations)
    Also on breakups: Uncoupling

  23. Resource sites with a ton of excellent and free fitness info:

    For training and getting leaner (especially with intermittent fasting) these are both good information and good presentation. Rippedbody does a good job of describing leangains, but without the attitude.
    http://rippedbody.jp/
    http://anthonymychal.com/

    Good description of basic 5×5 training — especially useful for those starting out.
    http://stronglifts.com/
    Also plenty of good information for starting out:
    http://www.jcdfitness.com/

    Two other sites that I highly recommend for their information, but the authors have attitude that shows through and may be a turnoff to some:
    http://www.leangains.com/
    http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/

    This link has a link to an excellent podcast with basic info:
    http://www.bodyrecomposition.com/announcements/dr-drew-pinksy-and-mike-catherwood-podcast.html

  24. Leangains and Hammer Nutrition for info on training and feeding. Also like the Clean program by Junger. Body Mind and Sport by Douillard, very influential book for me. Four Hour Body by Ferris also helpful. Money, dunno, make a lot, spend less, that’s all I’ve ever done…I love work and plan to do it til I die so I don’t worry much about it. Game – see previous comment on money… ;). Not many problems money and a six-pack wont solve.

  25. (1) Physical Fitness, Food and Health.
    Paleo Solution. And crossfit blogs.

    (2) Money and Material Possessions.

    (3) Alpha Goodness and Attraction.
    Iron man comics.

    (4) Beta Goodness and Comfort Building.
    Five love languages.

    (5) Personality and Peak Performance / Success.

    (6) Sex Life and Bedroom Fun.
    Erotica blogs by aspiring housewives.

    Athol, I know you’re not “that guy” but you ought to put up a wish list in Amazon. I have to thank you in ways beyond just buying a few copies of your book. A PayPal button, anything. Don’t be shy. I feel indebted to you and that indebtedness needs to be addressed.

  26. (1) Physical Fitness, Food and Health.
    – Another vote for You Are Your Own Gym
    – My first Paleo book: Neanderthin. Probably out of print, and now obsolete, but it changed my life.

    (2) Money and Material Possessions.
    – Another vote for Your Money or Your Life
    – the entire Mises.org free market catalog

    (3) Alpha Goodness and Attraction.
    – MMSL, Athol Kay
    – No More Mr. Nice Guy, Glover

    (4) Beta Goodness and Comfort Building.
    – The Five Languages of Love
    – Marriage Builders website and eBooks (esp. his Basic Concepts section)

    (5) Personality and Peak Performance / Success.
    – Please Understand Me II (Kiersey) (personality typing, and an intro to the idea that people have different priorities, strengths, and goals)
    – Give and Take, by Adam Grant (Awesome. Simple but mind-blowing.)
    – Talent Is Overrated (Geoff Colvin) and/or Outliers (Gladwell) – cuts through the myths
    – Tons of books on marketing, branding and advertising, but some recent standouts would include:
    — Unconscious Branding (Van Praet)
    — All Marketers Tell Stories (Godin)
    — Fascinate (Hogshead)
    — Monster Loyalty (Huba) a very light-read about Lady Gaga’s fans, but worth it.

  27. JellyBean says:

    1. The Body Sculpting Bible for Women by James Villepigue
    2. Simplify by Joshua Becker
    6. The Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides

  28. (1) Physical Fitness, Food and Health. still figuring out exercise- little tips about seeking activity whenever possible (like taking stairs) have helped me rein things in but obviously not going to give anyone a 6 pack. For food, I love “What to Cook When You Think There’s Nothing in the House to Eat”http://www.amazon.com/What-Think-Theres-Nothing-House/dp/0060955597 Really good tips and covers basics of cooking in very easy to understand ways- it’s a huge step towards learning to not rely on fast food and processed junk without constantly going shopping nor buying tons of expensive ingredients. If you want to work on your comfort building kitchen skills, just read this. It’s even written to be entertaining- I’ve gladly read it cover to cover many times. Health: for women, anything by Dr. Christiane Northrup. Start with Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom. Bad OB/GYN care can really f*** up your sex life (routine episiotomy, anyone?) so figure it out. She’s very all encompassing and hits on many, many issues (particularly money and sex) and has great resource lists as well. http://www.amazon.com/Womens-Bodies-Wisdom-Revised-Emotional/dp/0553386735/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1370186991&sr=1-1&keywords=women%27s+wisdom+women%27s+bodies Of course, also discusses birth control options thoroughly, something most sex focused books rarely even allude to.

    (2) Money and Material Possessions. “Your Money, Your Life” for sure; BTW the “Chris” lady given as a case study in this book is the above mentioned Dr. Christiane Northrup. Suze Orman is pretty decent for info but I know her info has some limitations.

    (3) Alpha Goodness and Attraction. MMSL and NMMNG of course:) For women, learning to dress flatteringly with good but simple to do hair and make up is key (simple b/c if it takes you an hour to get ready it’s very likely going to make you go completely to sh** if life throws you a few curve balls; it’s also a little more alpha to look good without trying too hard “*giggle* Oh this old thing? I only wear it when I don’t care how I look! *wink*” So figure out what works for you. Books on fashion and looking your best tend to be better at helping you with this than magazines, which have a very overt motive to sell the clothes of the companies that sponsor them. You want ones that focus on classic good looks not fresh-off-the-press fashion RIGHT NOW b/c one, it will very likely be an over and done with fad by the time such a book is even printed, and two, even if still on current trends, it can become very dated very quickly and then your look is subsequently very dated.

    (4) Beta Goodness and Comfort Building. WTCWYTTNITHTE as mentioned in #1. Totally agree with 5 Love Languages as that’s amazingly solid. Also How to Affair Proof Your Marriage- I have a love/hate relationship with it b/c it’s SO genderized and I really felt like it brushed aside my personal needs as a high libido woman BUT “How to Affair Proof Your Marriage” is nice. Both 5LL and it are by Christian authors, but are secular books. HTAPYM may be particularly good for Christian wives who are resisting a dose of red pill “looks matter so work out and try to look pretty”. He’s fairly gentle so would be good one for “you should love me for me” types. Wasn’t my issue but I even took something from it. The stuff on making hubby feel appreciate was really good. For comfort building beta skills, FlyLady.net (which also has some published books out) has tons of good resources on how to keep house, even for ppl with severe hoarding issues.

    (5) Personality and Peak Performance / Success. For personality, “King Magican Warrior Lover” is a classic. The book is very male oriented but applies to women and some experts now take to referring to it as “King/Queen…” bc it’s that universal a concept. It’s a classic in the men’s movement for building your strengths and overcoming your weaknesses. Hubby came across it at a book store one day and absolutely loves it- one of the few books of his that has survived multiple decluttering sessions and moves. http://www.amazon.com/King-Warrior-Magician-Lover-Rediscovering/dp/0062506064/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1370187618&sr=1-1&keywords=king+magician+warrior+lover Another good book for understanding and working on difficulties of being a man in modern society (so loosely filing this under “success”) is “Knights Without Armor” http://www.amazon.com/Knights-Without-Armor-Guide-Inner/dp/0974509108/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1370187775&sr=1-1&keywords=knights+without+armor

    (6) Sex Life and Bedroom Fun. “Your Brain on Sex” was very cool. One of the few sex books that actually had something beyond psycho babble to say about it. (Sorry but “Passionate Marriage” was so stupid IMO- only thing I really got from it was “nothing prepares you for marriage except marriage” um ok. That’s comforting after a fight when you’re struggling with why things can be so hard, but otherwise it was more or less some old dude waxing about the greatness of orgasm and screwing. Yeah, knew that…) Anyways, Siegel is on target. http://www.amazon.com/Your-Brain-Sex-Smarter-Change/dp/1402253923/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1370187976&sr=1-1&keywords=your+brain+on+sex For wives who may be shy or very conservative Christians, Shannon Ethridge’s “The Sexually Confident Wife” is pretty good. She wrote the female version of “Every Man’s Battle” (“Every Woman’s Battle). TSCW is very secular though and fairly non-shaming unlike other sex books by Christian authors (cough *Kevin Leman* cough *secretly wants it up the @$$ but his wife won’t even do doggie style* cough cough *so demeans anal* cough *also hugely beta and his wife “accidentally” got pregnant like a dozen times so has way more kids than he wants cough…). TSCW is nice and even has those “inclusive” sketches of various positions by various body types seen in much more racy books. http://www.amazon.com/Sexually-Confident-Wife-Connecting-Husband/dp/0767926064/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1370188713&sr=1-1&keywords=the+sexually+confident+wife Another sex book that was pretty revolutionary for us was “The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women” (make sure it’s the “for women” bc the “for men” is about homosexuality- good but probably not as applicable for the mainly hetero readers here lol). http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Women-Guides-ebook/dp/B0097D7HMA/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1370188798&sr=1-1&keywords=the+ultimate+guide+to+anal+sex I want to explore backdoor but knew it could be a disaster if not done well (heard too many stories about adult diapers from rough anal and horrible infections from fecal matter to “just go for it” without lots of prior research lol). This covers all that and is extremely sexy. It has tons of info on every aspect you could think of. For erotica, for one stay away from 50 Shades for f***’s sake- so lame and so long before anything even happens! OMG who has f***ing time for that boring crap!?! The yearly editions of “Best Women’s Erotica” by Violet Blue tend to be very hot yet female and couple friendly.

  29. *Your Money OR Your Life…

  30. Starting Strength, Practical Programming for Strength Training, A Random Walk Down Wall Street (11th).

  31. Jonathan says:

    There is a book that fits into category (5):
    The mind and the brain. It discusses OCD and stroke victims, and the way the brain can adapt to change. Eventually the book wrestles with the concept of free will vs the deterministic nature of the universe and evolution, and moral dilemmas.

    I appreciated it because it cut right though my defeatist mind sets and gave me strength to believe any change was possible, as well as giving me cutting edge insight into the way the brain/nerves function in the body, and some amazing achievements by science and by individuals overcoming what are often considered “hopeless” challenges.

  32. my own dog says:

    I’m late to this one, but some good comments, notably by Eric above re strength training/physique, and interest of mine.

    Mark Rippetoe is good, and lots of people mention Starting Strength. If you’ve been at it a while, thought, you can no longer do linear progression. His Practical Programming is decent, but I’ll add Tom Venuto as pretty good on physique training. He does seek subscriptions and all.

    I’d say, for intermediate trainees,check out Layne Norton at http://www.biolayne.com/ . Layne has a Phd in nutrition, a natural (drug-tested) pro card in body building, and is also very successful in “raw” powerlifting competitions. “Raw” meaning without special suits and equipment. Or, @BioLayne on Twitter.

    Probably doing the basic Starting Strength workouts for a while will get you more than halfway there in terms of adding a little alpha strength/fitness. But if you want to go a bit further, you have to get past linear progression, especially for us older guys who have to work hard to make significant changes to our bodies.

  33. For money and material possessions, I would suggest reading:

    The Millionaire Next Door
    Bogleheads Guide to Investing
    Bogleheads Guide to Retirement Planning
    All The Money In The World – What The Happiest People Know About Getting and Spending

    I’d also recommend joining the AAII. My father in law went to Booth for his MBA, and that is what they taught him. After being a member for 3 years, I would have to agree. Well worth the lifetime membership. Think about it.

  34. Count me in as another wholehearted endorsement of “Your Money or Your Life”. A life changing book. They did a new version a few years ago primarily to reflect the fact that in today’s world you could no longer get the necessary income out of treasury notes as recommended in the first edition.

    The late Joe Dominguez (co-author of the original edition) is truly one of my heroes.

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