What Have You Learned From The Opposite Sex?

From the forum….

“What have you learned from the opposite sex on the forum?”

@Angeline: Guys pay far more attention to clothes than I ever imagined. Long hair I already knew about. Not clothes.

At the same time, after a few seconds they are mentally removing said clothing. I always feel the urge to cover myself whenever I remember that particular comment from @Ben.

Facials are not a jokey porn scene, but the epitome of loving acceptance of a man and his essence, his sperm. Learning this caused one of the most emotional, loving events in our four year relationship. Thanks again to @Linanati’s husband for distilling tons of helpful comments down into something beautiful, and to her for sharing it.

Men really do love the little oddities and flaws that we so badly want to hide – freckles, red hair, tan skin, pale skin, that little mole you know where, pink nipples, brown nipples, large boobs, small boobs, that little birthmark on her hip.

A little peek of forbidden boob is even better than a full on flash.

Headlights – good. I will never get used to this one.

Most men love the taste and smell of a clean, healthy woman. (Telling her this is beyond hot.)

Men truly are only a whisper away from some kind of sexual thought almost 99% of the time. The biggest laugh I can get out of Cdr. Awesome is thinking of a sexual innuendo that he hasn’t.

Men really do like feeling that they are protecting you. I always thought I was being helpful by not bothering him, trying to handle stuff on my own.

@DaveBowman: Women are OK with being checked out, as long as it’s on the up and up.

Women’s sex drive is highly response-driven, unlike men’s who is always on. At least in my case.

Having to be in control is a burden many women chase, but don’t want

99% of stuff women say they want is wrong, and this is why guys think they’re so hard to figure out.

Women lie to themselves, and each other, as a matter of course. This, in fact, is how modern society was formed.
Most women don’t understand the power of lingerie.
Many women are so afraid of how they are perceived by other women, that they’d rather be unhappy all their lives than be thought negatively of
Some women try so hard to be men, that they succeed. And hate themselves for it.
@Girl4:  A woman’s enthusiasm in bed is the biggest turn on for men. (This really helped me get over a lot of my body issues)Men’s idea of dressing sexy is racier than a woman’s idea of it.@Ben: That many more women than I would have credited enjoy being dominated in bed.  And that these aren’t basket cases with poor self-esteem and daddy issues, but nice, normal, pleasant, intelligent women.

That when asked for an opinion or decision by a woman, it’s better to pick something at random (but be decisive about it) than tell her, “I don’t care, whatever you want.”  Even if you honestly don’t care. That one probably should’ve been common sense, but what can I say.  Common sense isn’t.

@Wendy: that sex means so much more than just sex to a lot of guys.  I definitely had the whole horn dog stereotype before MMSL.

@RedPillWifey:  Sex is more to men than just a way to get off.

@Neen: Men like thigh high socks.

@Shanna_Banana:  That I don’t have to change and be this perfect submissive wife. I can be my normal “bratty” self! (All in a teasing way, of course. Not BSC or mean. Ok, maybe a little mean. :)

Oh, and that men don’t really care what a woman does as her career, mostly just if she’s hot.

@AlphaBelle:  That an enthusiastic, wife-initiated BJ means so much to a man.

Ok, that an enthusiastic, wife-initiated ANYTHING means so much to a man, but BJs seem to top the list.

@Pterodacytl:  That men are attracted to a wider variety of women than Maxim would lead one to believe.

@BetaGeek:  That you can do almost everything correctly, but making a thoughtless mistake (or comment) can upend everything for hours, days, weeks, or possibly forever.  Women are both tougher and more fragile than men give them credit for.  I think women are less fragile if they receive plenty of good beta though.

@Neanderthal2000:   That the saying that no means maybe isn’t bullshit.

@Mr_Brown:  That women can see their husband as creepy.

@Fredless:  That women, for the most part, do not like their husbands to make sweet love to them.  Women prefer to be pounded through the mattress.

@Serenity:  That men hurt when rejected for sex just as women do and that I relate to a man who’s been sexually rejected by his partner more than I do to a woman who hasn’t been.

@MILF_In_Training:  Blue Pill men don’t understand that sexuality works differently for women, or in different wording, most men have absolutely no understanding of responsive desire.

@Tanooki:  That being the object of a woman’s hypergamy is more powerful than a marriage contract.

@Shibari:  That there are women who actually need or miss sex the way a man does: Getting horny just because it has been some time since the last sex. Feeling distant, cranky, distracted, going up the wall. Regarding sex as essential, not just as the icing on the cake.

@Rapunzel:  Took me awhile to get that memo but yes we can have bad beta too.

@Hamster_Free:  That feminist societal conditioning has turned many men into better wives than me.

@George:  When I’m strong she relaxes a bit.

@CMH:  A far greater understanding, accepting and embracing of how sexually wired men are. A far greater understanding, accepting and embracing of how slutty I can be. Win-win.

@ThisisJen:  That letting the man lead is better for everyone……no, I didn’t really “know” that before.

@Scarlet:  That men need for their wives to need them.

Athol: That the number one cause of female Batshit Crazy is a husband with ED.


  1. I jotted down a few before reading the actual post:

    -I’ve learned that perception is reality: your frame/context/attitude/etc set so much of the tone for how she sees you and interprets your actions. Framing is a key skill.

    -A good lot of women really want to have a good relationship and do right by their man, and it’s critical that the man give her the context in which to do so – being a leader and articulating your own wants and needs so she knows what is expected.

    -That despite what they try to tell us about their “woman’s intuition,” they can’t read our minds and are often totally wrong. They can only read our behaviors, so learn what she hears from your behaviors and practice using them to communicate.

    -That women are not that difficult to understand, as long as you can throw away what your parents/sisters/the media told you, and can not project your own way of thinking onto them.

    -That if you don’t seem to be in emotional control of yourself or a situation, her emotions will get out of control.

    -That you don’t need to be Mr Alpha Male all the time for her to admire you, you just need to flex your alpha at the right moments.

    -Audacity is a powerful aphrodisiac.

    -Female sexual desire tends to be responsive, so the sexier and more captain-oriented the man is, the better his sexual experience will be.

    -That a critical essence of comfort game is to create the “safe space” in which a woman can emote or get really sexual without feeling “judged” or mocked. A lot (probably most) women are afraid to admit what they want, sexually or otherwise, out of that fear.

    -That if you look like you are trying to impress/attract/turn on a woman, it doesn’t count. The paradox of game is that women don’t find men sexy if they are trying to be sexy for women. You have to make it look like you are working out, getting organized, etc just for your own well-being and that female attention and attraction is a collateral bonus.

  2. Hanibal says:

    What a great list.

    This one made me laugh:

    “That feminist societal conditioning has turned many men into better wives than me.”

  3. What have I learned?


  4. What do women learn?

    They desire knowledge…and look for the man that communicates knowledge to them through understanding.

  5. Batman64 says:

    Athol: That the number one cause of female Batshit Crazy is a husband with ED.

    What does that mean? When I was having issues with ED my wife seemed relieved and even told me women aren’t worried about having sex when they get older. Not to worry about it.

  6. Angeline says:

    Badger, that was awesome.

  7. Good post and good follow up comments. Good job Badger with your own list. Useful.

  8. @Batman24 – if the wife wants sex with her husband, ED drives her absolutely crazy.

    In your case, you should probably hear it as her lack of attraction to you.

  9. alphaguy says:

    Women love to manhandled. In bed and out. As long as it’s done in an Alpha way…

  10. They were all brilliant.

    I’ve learned that there are lots of women who want more sex than their husbands. It has been a great week for me. I dont feel so alone anymore….woo hoo

    @Batman24 – if the wife wants sex with her husband, ED drives her absolutely crazy.
    Athols response – In your case, you should probably hear it as her lack of attraction to you.

    Athols right (again)…I’m older and I am Batshit Crazy because of lack of sex (I want it and I’m attracted to my husband and he’s not even Alpha but on the occasion he does show some Alpha traits, I die for him)…I’m so batshit crazy I go to the gym twice a day just to exert some sexual energy.

    Yes your wife is not turned on by you…I bet if some other guy turned up, her libido would turn back on. Or else you’re too controlling, verbal abusive/negative etc.

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