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Faith and The Really Really Weak Force

April 17, 2013 By 18 Comments

I’ve had this post sitting in my drafts folder for at least two years. I forget exactly what I was writing it in response to, but seem to recall feeling it was just going to continue an Internet fistfight of some description, so I never published it.

Since then, I’ve taken it out and read it over about a dozen times. I’ve always liked it. It makes me happy to read it. Then I don’t publish it.

The truth is that there are things with MMSL that happen “under the hood” so to speak, that are part of why it works. Things that you neither had to know about nor believe, so I didn’t mention them. I figured if the results were there, that was all that mattered. I’ve reached the point where I think it’s time to start talking about them though. It’s a post for another day about why I decided that.

So for now… Faith and The Really Really Weak Force. Written prior to the Primer if that helps anyone place context.

And as you read remember this one thing. You still gotta go to the gym.

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Athol:  This reader did not wish to see their whole story on the blog, but the stripped down version is that he started at a point of near divorce and unwell wife. Discovered MMSL and started bumping back on her testing and improved his fitness. After gaining more control in the relationship he pushed for addressing the medical issues and the couple revealed a prescriber has misread her labwork earlier and was ordering medication to make things worse. I had also suggested a medication addition and that was adopted. After a very rough adjustment to the med changes over a few weeks, Mrs. Reader turned into Mr. Reader’s personal pornstar. I kid you not.

What he finished with is this…

Reader:  There is something about what you are doing that is different than anything else I have found out there on the internet.  MMSL has real substance, and I’m talking relationship substance that goes beyond and deeper than simply the “better sex” that initially gets a guy’s attention.  I would even say its deeply spiritual along with physical.  I know you are an atheist and I respect that, but you are helping people in ways that “believers” like me can see that you have a purpose beyond yourself in what you are doing.

Athol:  Thank you, I truly appreciate it. And yes, I know I have a purpose and I have faith in that purpose as well. Some of you just feel off your chairs didn’t you. Hearing an atheist talk about having faith is like listening to Jamaicans talk about shoveling snow. But mon I leave in Con-near-ticut so yoo shall expect thee unexpected. That white stuff be muney fallin’ from thee sky.

So let me explain…

From “Star Trek: The Undiscovered Country.” Spock speaking with his Vulcan protegee Valeris.

Spock: “History is replete with turning points, Lieutenant. You must have faith.”

Valeris: “Faith?”

Spock: “That the universe will unfold as it should.”

Valeris: “But is that logical? Surely we must…..”

Spock: “Logic, logic, and logic….. Logic is the beginning of wisdom, Valeris, not the end.”

 

Faith. One of the common complaints religious people have about atheists is that we have faith in science and humanity. Thus atheism isn’t really non-religious and all the complaints atheists have about religion equally apply to atheists themselves. Ah-HA! Checkmate!

Yes and no.

There’s a world of difference between living your life based on what a burning bush said and what labwork says. Thinking earthquakes are punishment for sin, and thinking they are all part of plate tectonics is quite different. Thinking God made the earth flat and the moon is a light in the sky isn’t the same as setting foot on the moon. In this sense most Western religious people are really quite firm believers in 99% of science and thus all the complaints religious people have about the atheist faith in science, equally apply to the religious themselves. Ah-HA! Checkmate!

So anyway…

While I don’t see spiritual elements to life, I do think there are some “spooky actions at a distance” that happen. But these spooky actions are real world material effects that are happening, and frankly only influences on outcomes. Or put another way, while I don’t believe in The Force from Star Wars, I do believe in The Really Really Weak Force.

Every atom in the moon and every atom in the earth, in me and in you, are bound together by gravity. We can explain extremely precisely what the effect of gravity will be, but have no clue about exactly why gravity works as a real world physical force. It just does.

The earth and the moon are 238855 miles apart, but they are subtly connected to the other. It’s the same with people, we are all subtly connected to the other. We just are.

If you want to call that connection spiritual you can, but whatever it is, what makes that connection happen is a real world tangible physical material force. Science just doesn’t know much about it yet and The Really Really Weak Force doesn’t do much anyway.

The universe is an amazing place and science slowly but surely learns a little more each day. Maybe one day we’ll know how exactly how that connection between us all really works, maybe we won’t. But I do know that science explains far more than any religion ever will.

So to my reader at the start of the post… God may have answered your prayers and led you to MMSL. Or it may have been pure luck you found MMSL. Or maybe our connection to each other through the The Really Really Weak Force knew I had the answers you needed and here we are. Though to be honest, mostly people just Google.

What I do know is this, The Really Really Weak Force doesn’t respond to talk. The Really Really Weak Force responds to actions. Pray if you must, but if you keep praying for the same stuff over and over, it’s because you don’t have enough faith to get into action. I’ve spent forty years of my life talking and thinking and not a lot happened for me. The last three years I’ve been doing and it’s been transformational.

So have a little faith.

Oh and hey…
… May The Really Really Weak Force be with you.
Filed Under: Humor and Everything Else

Apologize Like A Boss

April 7, 2013 By 16 Comments

Sometimes you screw up and feelings are hurt and it’s unquestionably your fault. If that’s the case, you should apologize. It’s the right thing to do.

The trouble with apologies though, is they very easily turn into displays of weakness / fear / low value / submission. Then instead of repairing the damage, they actually do further damage as you entitle them to enrage against you even more than before. People always feel better at ease venting anger toward someone in lower status than them, than venting toward someone higher status than them. Thus a groveling apology creates greater social distance between you.

In case you didn’t hear that correctly… I’m saying you’re probably better off not apologizing and letting them be mad at you, than going down on one knee and begging forgiveness. You don’t drop your status and beg.

All you should do is acknowledge you did the wrong thing and if something is possible to be done to correct a situation you have caused, state a plan of correction and follow through on it. You don’t “act sorry” though. To apologize like a boss, just acknowledge and correct.

Then once the apology has been stated, you don’t go back and rehash it endlessly. You’ve apologized, it’s up to them to figure out their emotional state after that. If they keep coming back for another helping of angst and drama, state you’ve already apologized and refuse to be drawn into further debate.

Gifting is also a potential tool to use as well, but you use gifting to simply frame the acknowledgment of your wrongdoing more seriously, rather than attempt to buy their love and positive attention back. Trying to buy their positive attention back is also a display of low value. The purpose of something like flowers is to force them to pay attention to the apology. You’re making them acknowledge your acknowledgment.

The other trouble with gifting is that it can turn into a behavioral reward for them to be all dramatic and hurt at you. It only takes a couple of times trying to buy your way out of the dog house and it would be completely rational for them to start trying to figure out ways to get you into the dog house. A couple rounds of that and you’re a big Beta pinata full of cash and goodies.

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Anyway… I love The Big Bang Theory… watch both videos.

 


Filed Under: Alpha and Beta Male Traits, Humor and Everything Else, Nice Guys and Betaization

Old Flames… It’s Cool If We’re Friends Right?

March 26, 2013 By 24 Comments

Athol:  Married dude calls up old flame to discuss things. To his great surprise it’s like stepping into a emotional Narnia as everything comes flooding back. They talk for 4.5 hours on the phone.

Thus the question…. is it possible to keep this on a friendship level?

Er…… no. No it it isn’t. It was a mistake to even call her.

HamsterMan:  No, it wasn’t a mistake.  Calling her up cleared up some mental crap I had been carrying around for a long time, so that was an unalloyed good.

My intentions are completely honorable.  Geography makes a Physical Affair impossible.  I don’t want an Emotional Affair.

Is there any way to get into the friend zone?  Lol, when did people start to want that?

Athol:  Well, okay. If you kill her sexual interest in you, it could work. Maybe you can…

Call her up and start talking about dolphins getting caught in tuna nets and cry for 10-15 minutes.

Talk about how when you watched Bugs Bunny as a kid, and he dressed as a girl bunny, you felt confused inside.

Tell her you have erectile dysfunction.

Drunk dial her at 245am her time. And 310am. And 325am. And 430am. On a Monday.

Have your wife screaming in the background of the call that you need to go to the store to pick up tampons for her.

Mention your colostomy bag keeps falling off. Your insurance was denied and now you have to use ziplock sandwich bags and they’re hopeless.

Call collect. Then ask her for money.

Use the joke, “Yes, but why is the rum gone?” seven times in the same phone call. Then text her it twice.

Ask if she’d consider making a healer for World of Warcraft.

Tell her you jizzed in your pants thinking about her. Two weeks ago. During a funeral.

I mean you realize when she Friendzones you, she’s not going to take your calls right?

What’s the point of this exercise?

No. No you can’t.

 

Filed Under: Cheating and Infidelity, Humor and Everything Else, Monogamy and Marriage 2.0

There is No X Until Y

March 22, 2013 By 4 Comments

Reader:  So I understand the approach of reward good behavior and extinguish bad behavior by withdrawing any action that may feed it, but how about dealing with a child who has an Autism Spectrum Disorder.  How do you approach tantrum that have no logical antecedent.  “No daddy, I don’t want the yellow, it has to be red, only red, only red…”  You have to remember there is not reasoning with someone who is in the fight or flight mode most of their life.  And, your approach?

Athol:  The short answer is that pretty much everything I’ve written about behavior modification on MMSL has come from my experience in dealing with behaviorally challenged children as part of my nursing work. All my experience in dealing with developmentally disabled, psychiatric, teenagers has been very helpful in finding ways to effectively deal with… ah… well… er… what’s the word I’m looking for… oh… women.

Oh relax…. I’m kidding. The behavioral training stuff works on everyone. You, me, dolphins, chimps, crazy people… everyone. If something likes food or sex and you can control its access to either or both, eventually you can get it to pretty much anything you want, given enough time and lack of ethical oversight.

Anyway, let’s talk autism in specific and you guys can pull out what you can for dealing with the neurotypical people in your life…

First you need to create a very clear structure to the day and determine the exact things you want to work on for behavior. You can’t go at it with a vague half-assed plan. Everyone needs to be on board with the exact goals you’re working on. If mom thinks that and dad wants this… the kid will drive a wedge between you faster than you can blink and start sneaking a soda everytime you two fight about whether soda is okay or not.

Certain things like colors of cups, shirts etc, may not matter in the bigger picture, but other stuff like aggression, task avoidance etc can be focused on. Pick something you can reasonably expect to change, or is mission critical sort of stuff.

Very clear behavioral expectations need to be set along the “There is no X until Y” mantra. I.e. ”Brush your teeth, then we watch cartoons.”

You have to look at exactly what they consider rewards to be and use them  to motivate behaviors you want to see. Do be cautious about using food items as rewards, they really do work, but it’s easy to overdo it and get locked into feeding them endless junk food. A bag of M&M’s as a reward is way too much, 2-3 individual M&M’s might be fine. It all depends on what you’re trying to achieve.

Immediate rewards for correct behavior are more effective than delayed rewards. If you’ve ever watched animal shows, the trainers are typically rewarding the animal multiple times through the show. Trick = treat, trick = treat, trick = treat…

Also you have to remember that within their entire set of behaviors, they can also discover that being autistic and acting out, is a really good way of avoiding tasks they don’t want to do, and gaining control of their entire household and forcing the parents/staff to comply to them. Depending how deep they are on the spectrum, they may be quite aware of what’s happening around them, but choosing not to respond to it.

As an example, one of the most affected autistic kids I’ve worked with was called “H” and always completely ignored the program coordinator when she visited the program.  Well she had come that day to set up the trip to a major fair one state over and rather loudly said, “Unless H comes over and says hello to me, H won’t be going.”  To which H immediately walked over to her and very pleasantly said, “Hello J, how are you today?”    Funny how he paid attention when it mattered to him. A full and complete sentence to boot.

There is always the combination of (1) the real effects of the real disorder, plus (2) the way they purposely use the disorder to get what they want and avoid what they don’t want. So (1) can’t be fixed, only managed, but (2) can be worked on.    

I mean we’ve all done that exact same thing ourselves when we’ve been physically sick. Yes indeed we might have (1) strep throat, but we’ve all milked it to get (2) extra attention from mom, an extra day off school, someone else to do your chores for a couple of days and… and… well maybe my throat would feel better with some nice cool ice cream.

I mean it’s amazing how much slack you can get from a serious (1) and just how much (2) that lets you get away with…

With autistic kids though, it’s like you never get out of that cycle. (1) plays into (2) all day every day.

Ultimately with very difficult behavior challenges, you may have to look into medication management as well. Which is of course a whole can of worms to open, but can have real benefits as well. I would also create behavior charts and actively track the behavior you are seeing, both positive and negative. Some of the changes are extremely small on a daily basis, but over the long term you can see significant changes. If you go the medication route, it’s incredibly helpful to prescribers to see the effect of medication changes on the behavior.

So coming back to the question of a tantrum that has no logical antecedent… all kids test their parents and push limits. It’s logical to attempt to control your environment and maximize the volume of goodies coming your way. So NOT the yellow, only the red, only the red, only the red… OBEY ME FOOLISH MINION ONLY THE FUCKING RED. Now buy me some juice or I’ll start throwing shit inside the store and screaming like you’re killing me. Oh look, juice. Excellent. Also I wish to ride the rocking spaceship thingy we saw on the way in and I don’t want to see you making a scene about it either, why is it that you never listen to me in Wal-Mart unless I’m naked?

See how that works? When all is said and done, it’s just a battle between two frames…

Yours: There’s no X until Y.

Theirs: (1) gets me (2).

I know that all sounds simplified…. and they are rather easy concepts to state and nod your head to, but they are exceptionally difficult to consistently put into practice when faced with your own child turning every day into a battle of wills from dawn to dusk. Get all the outside help you can. Also just because you have a pretty good handle on say an 8-year-old autistic kid, don’t turn down ANYTHING offered to you as support services. Especially with the boys, once they hit adolescence and the testosterone starts cranking up, things can change on you faster than you realize. It’s one thing saying “no” to an 8-year-old who can be physically redirected calmly and safely… it’s another thing entirely with a 15-year-old who is suddenly four inches taller than his mother and forty pounds heavier.

I hope that helps. Autism really is hard going.

Filed Under: Humor and Everything Else, Nice Guys and Betaization

Free MMSL Booklet and Feed Me Seymour

March 20, 2013 By 7 Comments

Hiya,

<———- you should see a bright shiny new advert for the Forum Orientation Booklet.

The PDF booklets contain a brief orientation to the MMSL Forum experience. Includes how to use the forum and the essential nine questions for Relationship Triage. The nine Relationship Questions are a much expanded on version of the original blog post How To Figure Out What Went Wrong With Your Sex Life. Includes a list of common acronyms as well.

There are six different price points for this 16 page booklet, so people may pay whatever they wish for it. All versions contain the same material with no difference between them. The cover of the actual booklet does not show the price paid, cover images on Lulu.com are to try and ensure no one accidentally buys at the wrong price.

The six prices and links are….

 FREE  $10   $25   $50   $100  and  $250

So why am I doing this?

(1)  The forum is growing quickly and we do need a orientation package for new people. The purpose of the forum was to handle all the 1:1 email I was doing in a group setting. It’s working pretty well which some remarkable team solutions to complex problems.

(2)  Over the 3.5 years of MMSL, I’ve been asked many times for ways to donate to my work. However MMSL isn’t intended to be a small thing and I don’t wish to form as a charity. This way the booklets are an actual product to buy.

(3) I’m unable to take money for offering direct 1:1 advice and don’t even give 1:1 advice anymore anyway. This way the blog and forum remains free, and the books are an actual product to buy if you wish.

(4) Getting involved in offering forum memberships, or putting the blog behind a pay wall and handling credit card transactions et al, would be very time consuming. This way I don’t need to get caught up in the day to day stuff, and can keep doing what I actually want to be doing. Writing.

(5) The Lulu.com royalty splits are amazingly good. I get 90% of the cover price minus 99 cents. Considering what I’d have to do for credit card transaction fees et al if I was handling it myself, I’m very pleased with the split.

(6) The booklets are in a PDF format and have no copy protection. You can send them to everyone in the world if you like. It’s free advertising to me.

(7) You can pay what you want to pay, when you want to pay it. It’s free self-help.

(8) MMSL has been an undertaking with enormous personal risks. I’ve taken a Love over Gold approach to launch things, but at some point I have to turn the corner and become closer to the true level of profits I can make. I don’t ever see myself trying to fleece my readers, but it is time to ask for something for me.

 FREE  $10   $25   $50   $100  and  $250

 And please be assured that while I won’t know who paid what for a forum booklet, I have always been amazed and grateful for the level of interest people have had in MMSL and myself. A writer without a readership is a sad creature indeed, I am fortunate to be a happy one.

So please accept my most genuine thanks for everything you have all done for me. 

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And yes the blog has been somewhat neglected recently. Something I’ll be changing. I think the forum is finally starting to mature to the point where I can step a little further back and let it run itself a little more.  I’ve had a few odds and ends not exactly go my way recently and learned one does not simply walk into Mordor.

Plus Jennifer is about to begin a somewhat changing role.

Jennifer: We saying anything about that now?

Athol: Seemed like a good a cliffhanger.

Filed Under: Humor and Everything Else, The Male Action Plan (MAP)

The Athol Doesn’t Fall Far From The Tree

March 16, 2013 By 6 Comments

If case you have any doubts that everything really is my mother’s fault for how I turned out…

…these are the sort of links she sends me.

 

Filed Under: Humor and Everything Else

MMSL Causes Erectile Dysfunction… Wait. What?

March 13, 2013 By 19 Comments

Reader:  So this is going to sound like more first world sex problems, so if you don’t want to hear about it stop reading now.

Things continue to be amazing. We have had a truly epic ovulation week. We have had sex everyday for at least 8 or 9 days sometimes multiple times per day. Mrs. D has been very affectionate, flirty, horny and up for pretty much anything. I’m not going to go into all the details but suffice to say I am very satisfied.

So what is the problem? Well last night I couldn’t get it up. Actually I was able to get it up with some work, but then the baby started crying and that killed it. I just gave the Mrs. some oral and called it a night.

I’m 33 years old, I’ve experienced alcohol and drug induced ED, but this is the first time I’ve ever just not been able to get it done while being stone cold sober. Possible contributing factors that I can think of are; all that sex from the week leading up to last night including the attendant lack of sleep, a BJ to completion yesterday morning, being tired from Krav Maga class yesterday evening.

Is this just something that happens sometimes when you have this much sex? Or is it something that I should look into? I feel like Im too young to go on ED meds, and I don’t want this getting into my head and causing further problems. Any tips?

Athol:  Maybe the tale of Sooty the Guinea Pig will make you feel better…

A guinea pig called Sooty had a night to remember after escaping from his pen and tunnelling into a cage of 24 females.

He romanced each of them in turn and was yesterday the proud father of 43 offspring. Staff at Little Friend’s Farm in Pontypridd, South Wales, have now secured Sooty’s pen – and begun looking for homes for the guinea pigs. Owner Carol Feehan, 42, said: “I’m sure a lot of men will be looking at Sooty with envy.

“We knew that he had gone missing after wriggling through the bars of his cage. We looked for him everywhere but never thought of checking the pen where we keep 24 females. We did a head count and found 25 guinea pigs – Sooty was fast asleep in the corner. He was absolutely shattered. We put him back in his cage and he slept for two days.”

Anyway… It’s totally normal at that level of sexual activity to hit the wall where enough is enough.

Basically the more cum inside you waiting to come out, the hornier you are and the faster you get aroused. So after 8-9 days of endless sex… you’re basically “pulling so many buckets of water out of the well, the well is starting to run dry.”

Also after you orgasm, your dopamine drops and your prolactin level rises, and that’s a factor in shutting down your interest levels too. Basically as far as your body is concerned, you’ve blown a ton of cum into her, so she’s well and truly full of your cum, so you can take a nap now.

Anyway… relax, nothing to see here. All completely normal. Have a protein shake and keep your fluids up. Let your body recover a little.

That’s about it. You’re fine.

 

 

Filed Under: Humor and Everything Else, Sexual Health Issues, The Male Action Plan (MAP)

Beta Orbiting Peek-A-Boo-Boo

February 27, 2013 By 27 Comments

With babies, playing peek-a-boo is a classic game. It both delights them and teaches them an important cognitive skill. Just because you can’t see something, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.

Mommy is there and then mommy is gone… and peek-a-boo! Mommy is right back! Yay! And mommy is gone again… peek-a-boo! OMG she’s back! Wow. And she’s gone again… peek-a-boo! Oh this is hysterical, mommy you’re a wizardly genius! Dinner and a show.

Once the kids get mobile, the game gets a little more serious. Because mommy can completely disappear from one room, and be in another room. Which is fine for a minute or two, because there’s just something about this squeaky toy hammer that enthralls me. It causes no injury whatsoever, but my brother Thomas seems enraged by it hitting him. Why is that?

And…

OMG it’s been a full three minutes. Where’s mommy? Something terrible must have happened to her. She’s not in the kitchen. She’s not in the bedroom. Shit. Mommy…. She’s not in the bathroom either… oh! Oh! There’s mommy! She’s in the laundry. Hi mommy. Watcha doin’? Hi. What’s all this stuff? Can I help? Hi. Kiss me. Kiss me. Kiss me. Oh mommy your kisses are magical! Anyway, there’s something in my pants I need you to attend to.

So….

Fast forward say thirty odd years….

OMG it’s been a full three minutes. Where’s wifey? Something terrible must have happened to her. She’s not in the kitchen. She’s not in the bedroom. Shit. Wifey…. She’s not in the bathroom either… oh! Oh! There’s wifey! She’s in the laundry. Hi wifey. Watcha doin’? Hi. What’s all this stuff? Can I help? Hi. Kiss me. Kiss me. Kiss me. Oh wifey your kisses are magical! Anyway, there’s something in my pants I need you to attend to.

So stop it. Stop chasing your wife through the house like a toddler. She’ll be right back. Just because you can’t see her, doesn’t mean she doesn’t exist.

STOP IT. JUST DON’T DO IT.

Sure if you hear some sort of cascading crash and her anguished cries for help… go check on that. Likewise if more than half an hour has elapsed… it’s fine to lay eyes on her. Just don’t chase her through the house.

This is how your wife experiences endlessly seeking her out…

Also…

You are not goddamn Barney the Dinosaur. Not every single incidental passing in the hallway needs to involve cuddly-wuddly hug, kisses and gushing demands of verbal commitment.

STOP IT. JUST DON’T DO IT. IT MAKES HER VAGINA SEAL ITSELF SHUT.

If you’ve been running about your house like Virginity Pledge Care Bear and need a good rule of thumb for displays of affection to get yourself under better control, use the ye olde Roissy Golden Ratio approach. For every three instances of her initiating the display of affection, you should initiate two times.

Ideally your two times should involve things like kissing the back of her neck, lightly dry humping her ass, deep kisses where you lightly touch her face or gently pull her hair.

Anyway…

Ugh…

I need a palate cleanser.

Filed Under: Alpha and Beta Male Traits, Humor and Everything Else, Instigate Isolate and Escalate, Nice Guys and Betaization, Sexy Moves, The Male Action Plan (MAP)

The Next Primer Edition

January 10, 2013 By 37 Comments

If you’re been following the plot… I thought I would do a Primer revision every year, but just… couldn’t… make… myself… write… it… over…. again. Seriously, it’s like redoing a year at school. I hated every moment of trying to rewrite it.

Anyway…

I now have several quite important ideas and changes I want to make to the Primer. Most of which have flooded into me over the last 3-4 weeks. You’ve probably caught little whiffs of them here and there, but at this point only three people including myself have seen the basic theoretical structure to the new approach, and only I have seen parts of some of the odds and ends. I think you will recognize the new version as still being the Primer, just a significantly better work.

That being said, I would like some feedback.

(1)  What did you like about the 2011 edition?

(2)  What did you like least about 2011 edition?

(3)  What do you think I missed in the 2011 edition?

(4)  What did I say that was just plain wrong or only partially right in the 2011 edition?

(5)  What could be dropped from the old edition?

(6)  What should be added?

When the new edition is done, that’s it. I doubt I will revisit it again for another ten years. But it’s not done until it’s done either. People have often asked to help sell the current Primer, but I’m holding off on heavily advertising the current edition because I am increasingly uncomfortable with it. It’s not wrong, but nor is it quite right. I’m proud of it, but it’s like a high school yearbook photo to me now.

I also have to regretfully distance myself a little from the blog and the forum. I have given a great deal and am burning out on it all. Right now the Primer revision is coming to the surface as my most critical task that will probably define the next thirty years of my life. So I need to be a little selfish. I am by no means “going away and not coming back”. It’s just time to do this task is all.

As things have progressed on a personal level, I have become increasingly awed by how arranged all of this is. This is all much larger than me being a smart guy with some clever ideas. I am grateful for everyones support.

Filed Under: Humor and Everything Else

Three Years of MMSL

January 2, 2013 By 30 Comments

Three years is a long time.

When I started the blog, I thought I knew exactly what I was doing… but now I realize I didn’t really have much of a clue. I just plowed ahead with this intense need to write and learn and do something. I’d stumbled onto a set of interesting ideas and and had an answer that I simply had to say.

Since then I’ve had several hundred people write to me and tell me that their life was significantly better for having read the blog and the book. I’ve seen the photos of weddings and “thanks to MMSL” babies. I’ve seen affairs headed off at the pass, and some mopped up a little too late. Some people simply move on to better and brighter relationships. Some people are still walking a hard path.

I do look back though and see some major changes in how I wrote. 2010 is perky and bouncy… then dad died and 2011 is more reserved. 2012 is a little more tired. I’ve been so tired. I’ve said nearly everything that I think I need to say on the blog. There’s only so much energy I have and near daily posting has become a drain.

I’ve also had over the last few weeks a whole second wave of of ideas and fine tuning to the overall MMSL approach. I’m not saying the old stuff is wrong, just that the new stuff is easier to understand, stronger in practice, less offensive and answers all those “but what about?” questions. But it’s going to take some time to write it all out properly so don’t be surprised if the blog posting starts tapering down a lot and is little less about me and more about the content.

Anyway, say tuned. Know where your wallets are.

Filed Under: Humor and Everything Else, Uncategorized
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