The third book published by Athol Kay, this is a quantum leap forward in self-improvement, ease of use and practical applications of running your own MAP. Where the Primer was focused on a “Red Pill for Men” approach, The Mindful Attraction Plan knits a smooth synthesis of four years of writing into an approachable book both men and women can use.
“If you’ve read the MMSL Primer, don’t worry, this one is still worth reading… There’s some crossover material, but it’s a lot of new stuff, with a revamping of the MAP process. Consider this the laser beam approach, whereas the Primer was more of a shotgun full of buckshot in the variety of topics. Both are required reading, in my opinion.
The Mindful Attraction Plan is a freaking great blueprint for how to make yourself successful and happy, not just in your marriage, but in your whole life. The language is quite a bit toned down from the Primer, but the info is still red pill. It reaches a broader audience by including us ladies in the conversation, since most of the advice holds true for women as well…. Work on yourself, cut out the negativity, take control of your life.
And bonus, if you have a friend or family member that REALLY needs the marriage advice, you can give it to then without feeling awkward about the word “sex” being in the title, lol. I plan on giving it out as Christmas presents to everyone I can think of.”
As a huge fan of Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now about being and living in the present, I think The Mindful Attraction Plan has a lot to offer for self-improvement and about seeing the dynamics between people in a new light. I can say that there are still stagnant things in my own life that I need to work on, and this book has me already addressing them in a way that is positive and doesn’t beat up too bad the reader’s past choices. It’s a very positive mindset book, and while it’s a little soft for my tastes, still has a lot to offer and is a good introduction to self-improvement, marriage improvement and sex improvement (in a roundabout way) without scarring the uninitiated. I would say it’s a good companion to The Primer, but of the two, The Primer is more of a slap in the face from a Bull which I think is needed for many men having a hard time figuring out why their marriage isn’t what they want. The MAP is a soft approach into the same areas and is a great intro to men and women who are looking to simply improve themselves and as a result, their marriage and sex life.
The book itself reads more like the life manual you *SHOULD* have gotten passed down to you verbally from your dad growing up. Unfortunately, many of us either didn’t have dads around or if we did, they lacked the know how and street smarts to explain all this to us:/ Maybe give your dad a copy himself- and one for your mom while you’re at it! It’s not that the advice is so outrageously revolutionary but that it’s so rare in this world of ours so lacking in common sense. You know you probably should have focused more on tangible job skills in college rather than just majoring for fun in a basically purely liberal arts field, but seeing it in black and white drives it home. You know you should get in shape and keep up a regular work out schedule but having it explained how that affects the other aspects of your life make it clear it’s a “must do” not just something that would be *nice* to do. You know you should get your finances in order but realizing that it’s limiting you in so many ways really makes it more urgent.
I’m still figuring out how exactly I want to set up my MAP beyond doing the basics of trying to get my act together and working out regularly so I have energy and health to better my life and marriage. I hate to say it but there’s a lot to work on:( However this plan is laid out pretty plainly- I can zero in on the worst areas first. I can say if this or well any of Athol’s writings had been around back in my teens, my life today would be much different. My 30?s, which are coming up in a few years, would be much less scary too! I’m hoping to see significant improvement by then.
Athol Kay is not a Christian and this is not a Christian marriage book, but I think it should be recommended reading for every Christian marriage out there.
What I loved about Mindful Attraction Plan by Athol Kay -All the amazing advice on how to lose weight, be happier, be more positive, be more productive, and get your life under control. -He is funny and charming, it is a joy to read. -His strong, no-nonsense approach to marriage….only a man could come with this and it is desperately needed today. Strong leadership, he is going to make a great life coach. -I love how when someone comes to him with a problem about their spouse, he says “you can’t change your spouse, but you can change yourself” -I like how he shows you that your happiness and success in life is not dependent upon your spouse.
Summary: it is the concepts from Married Man Sex Life applied in a more general manner to any area of your life: relationships, employment, social clubs, etc….
…I’ve begun incorporating some of these concepts into my employment, and it has really helped. It helps ME maintain a more positive frame which helps me reduce my stress level. I notice that others respond so much better to positive energy vs. negative.
The essence of the book is practicality and application. Any theory covered is done so in order to help you apply those concepts to bettering your relationships.
If I were grading on a 5 star rating scale, I would have to give it 5 out of 5. Great read and can only help you in your relationships.